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I teach mostly elementary and middle school students in Korea, and this is true for my students as well. BTS are in a select group, along with Son Heung Min and Faker, that my male students like to write about and view as men to imitate, as well as pop culture heroes.
BTS Through the Eyes of Korean Middle-Aged Men
Yesterday after work, I met up with my old Seoul National University friends for the first time in a long while. We are all middle-aged professionals. Two are married with children, and two of us are still single. Over soju, makgeolli, and endless anju, we spent the whole night talking about family, kids, work, and aging.
Then, unexpectedly, the conversation turned to BTS.
One of the friends is a lawyer. During SUGAโs incident two years ago, he helped me understand what was happening legally and what would likely happen next, which I later relayed to my ARMY friends who were anxious and confused.
Anyway, my lawyer friend suddenly brought up the footage of the enormous crowd gathered outside the Mexican Presidential Palace when BTS visited the president. He said that, in his life, he had only ever seen crowds like that for the Pope. The others had seen the clips too, and they were all amazed by it.
I am the only ARMY among us, but one friend casually listens to BTS songs, another has a wife who is a dedicated ARMY and attends every concert in Korea, and the last one mostly knows BTS through television and social media.
We talked about how much pride BTS has brought to Korea. And because we are all politically liberal, we also talked about how meaningful it feels to see BTS openly support values we believe in. They supported former Democratic president Moon Jae-in, went to the United Nations to speak about mental health, and have donated enormous amounts of money and time to good causes over the years. They also all fulfilled their mandatory military service honorably and with distinction.
I also brought up the recent backlash questioning BTSโs masculinity, and my friends could not understand it at all. They never viewed BTS as anything other than masculine men. We admire men who are hardworking, responsible, emotionally grounded, respectful toward others, and empathetic. BTS embodies those qualities. What is more masculine than that?
The same feeling exists in the Korean online community that I belong to. Most of the members are middle-aged professional men, and BTS is held in very high regard there too. And throughout the years, across more than a hundred posts about BTS, I have never seen anyone question their masculinity, humanity, or worth. Some of posts about BTS received over 5,000 views and over 100 comments, yet not once did I come across a negative comment about BTS.
Quite the opposite, actually. Some even jokingly call RM ๏ฟฝ๏ฟฝ๏ฟฝhyungโ because of how thoughtful and mature he comes across in his writing, speeches, and actions.
I can say this clearly: We middle-aged Korean men view BTS very positively and see them as unquestionably masculine. We see them as a source of national pride and as strong role models for younger generations.
There seems to be a surge of backlash toward BTS lately from people clearly rattled by how massive and successful their concert tour has been so far. The usual insults are back again. Questions about their masculinity. Mockery of ARMY. The same tired assumptions.
It reminded me of something that happened a few years ago. One of my male students, after finding out I was a huge ARMY, asked me if I was gay.
Now, in Korea, the relationship between teacher and student is traditionally built on a fairly rigid hierarchy. Students usually do not speak casually to teachers, challenge them, or ask personal questions. But I have always been a different kind of teacher. I treat my students warmly and as equals, and tell them to ask me anything. They do not even call me seonsaengnim. They call me saam, a more casual and affectionate way of addressing a teacher.
So when he asked me that question, I did not see it as hostility. He was curious, not malicious.
I told him that I support gay rights and equal marriage, but loving BTS does not make me gay. I told him that I love BTS because of their extraordinary writing, rapping, singing, and dancing talents. That I love the sincerity and meaning in their lyrics, and the way they consistently treat people with kindness, warmth, and positivity.
And of course, because I am me, the poor student then had to sit through a very long lecture from me about masculinity and how narrow definitions of it can limit people.
To this day, I still find it strange that some people think appreciating artistry, emotional honesty, beauty, or kindness somehow threatens masculinity. If anything, BTS helped expand the idea of what masculinity can look like for millions of people around the world.
And then there is the mockery of ARMY itself. Some people keep repeating this stereotype that ARMYs are lonely women with no lives who pour all their money into BTS. The assumption is not only lazy, but honestly disconnected from reality.
First, there are many male ARMYs, like me. On Koreaโs music streaming platform Melon, around 35% of BTS listeners are male. I even checked the listener statistics for โSwimโ today (May 12, 2026), and men made up 37% of the listeners.
Futhermore, the ARMYs I have met are some of the most socially active, accomplished, and creative people I know. They have vibrant family lives, meaningful careers, and talents of their own in writing, art, music, design, education, and countless other fields. One ARMY friend from America who visits Korea often holds a major executive position while also involved with multiple organizations.
No, people do not love BTS because they are lonely. We love BTS because they represent the kind of humanity we want to see more of in the world. Empathy. Hard work. Vulnerability. Kindness. Emotional honesty. Growth.
Being ARMY has enormously enriched my life. Without BTS and ARMY, how would I have ended up with close online and offline friends across the United States, Americas, Africa, Europe, Oceania, and Asia? The fandom opened doors to human connections I otherwise never would have experienced.
And it is funny to watch some men mock women for passionately following BTS when those same people spend enormous amounts of time, money, and emotional energy on football in America or soccer in Europe. Nobody calls them lonely for flying across countries to watch matches, memorizing statistics, wearing jerseys, or centering weekends around sports. Human beings naturally gather around the things they love. Music is no different. BTS is no different.
As for Jiminโs hair, which is somehow also causing backlash, I love it. It immediately reminded me of Brad Pittโs hair in Troy, where he played Achilles. Achilles was supposed to be a Mediterranean Greek warrior, yet nobody complained that Pitt had flowing Swedish blonde hair down to his shoulders. People accepted it because he looked charismatic and amazing on screen.
That is exactly how Jimin looks with his long blonde hair. I hope he keeps it throughout the entire concert tour.
Whoever did this edit, I will sue you when I find you!!๐ฅน The most tender moment in the entire concert, watching them running to get together like little ones.๐ญ๐ญ
@bangtan_elfe 100% true - I teach English in Korea and my students (and many of their parents), talk about Bangtan like they're the irl Avengers. 99% of the average people I talk to are just proud of them~ ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ