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I saw this post and it stopped me because this is something I’ve been teaching for a long time.
The data isn’t surprising to me. Structure improves relationships. We’ve seen it over and over again with the families we work with at Tensai.
But here’s what I want to add to the conversation.
The reason most parents struggle with structure isn’t because they don’t believe in it. It’s because structure requires something from them first.
Whatever standard you set for your child, you have to keep it yourself. That’s where it falls apart for a lot of families.
You tell your child “no cursing” but they hear you curse.
You tell them “put the phone down” but you’re scrolling through yours at dinner.
You set a bedtime for them but you have no discipline around your own sleep.
Children are watching. And when they spot the gap between what you say and what you do, they stop taking the rules seriously.
Not because they’re rebellious. Because they’re honest.
They see the hypocrisy and they call it out. And most parents aren’t ready for that conversation.
So the first step to building structure for your child is building it for yourself.
Now here’s the part that connects to what I teach daily.
A lot of parents come to us wanting their child to perform better academically. “My child doesn’t want to read.” “My child can’t focus.” “My child hates studying.”
But when we look at the home, there’s no structure supporting that outcome. No dedicated study time. No screen limits. No homework routine.
The child has unfettered access to devices, entertainment, distractions.
Everything in the environment is working against the very thing the parent is asking for.
You can’t demand academic performance in a home that’s structured for entertainment.
Structure is what makes everything else possible. The bond. The discipline. The academic results. It all falls to the level of structure you have in place.
And yes, I agree with the original post. High warmth plus high structure is the winning formula.
You can absolutely have a deep, loving bond with your child while maintaining firm boundaries. Those two things aren’t in conflict. They strengthen each other.
But I’ll add one thing.
Structure alone doesn’t build a child who wants to learn. It creates the environment where learning can happen.
The desire comes from something else. It comes from how the child feels when they study. From what happens after the effort.
From whether the experience is rewarding or punishing.
That’s a whole other conversation. And I’ll share more on that soon.
“Prayer is a two way communication”
This sermon changed the way I use to pray.
If you listen to this full sermon, you’ll pray differently and get results faster.
LOOK: The star studded cast of the much awaited action series “Never Say Die” starring Pambansang Ginoo David Licauco and New Gen Teen Star Jillian Ward during their Grand Mediacon.
Watch “Never Say Die on February 1 , 850PM at GMA Network.
LOOK: The cast of “Never Say Die” Jillian Ward, David Licauco, Winwyn Marquez, Raymart Santiago, Angelu de Leon, Richard Yap, Kim Ji Soo, Ayen Munji-Laurel, Analyn Barro, and Raheel Bhyria, greet members of the press on Tuesday afternoon, Jan. 27, in Quezon City. | @JessEINQ
The new primetime love team to watch out for.
David Licauco and Jillian Ward team up for the first time as the leads of GMA-7's upcoming action-drama series "Never Say Die." | via Milo Severo
Real Luxuries in Life
1. Living 10 minutes from work
2. Living 5 minutes from the gym
3. Having quiet neighbors
4. Having money left at the end of the month and investing it
5. Peace at home
6. Drinking coffee without rushing
7. Sleeping with a clear conscience
8. Laughing with people who truly get you
9. Traveling every year
10. Waking up naturally without an alarm
11. Enjoying a home-cooked meal with loved ones
12. Having time to read a book in one sitting
13. Finding joy in simple daily routines
14. Having a pet that greets you happily at the door
These are the things that actually feel rich.
The guidance schools give young people in America is terrible. They are told “go to college or you will be a loser” and pressured to sign for student loans without ever being taught even the basics of financial literacy.
Does anyone think that’s an accident?