Natalie Lue

Declutter emotional baggage & discover your authentic self & loving relationships. Author, podcaster, speaker. Latest 📖 The Joy of Saying No (Harper Horizon)

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When someone likes you & genuinely wants to be with you, they don't burn up their energies trying to resist you plus they won't leave it ambiguous & run the risk of losing you. They'll step up with consistent actions that match their words. You will feel & know their interest.

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@BrusselsAirport @FlyingBrussels Hi, thanks for your reply. I’ve already done the form, and the email, and https://t.co/t7XPKRV67G. I also called the number and they told me to do the same thing again. It feels like no one actually wants to resolve this. Is there someone who I can talk to from lost property?

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@FlyingBrussels @BrusselsAirport Hi, been trying to get my daughter’s iPad left on SN245 last week to no avail (form, https://t.co/t7XPKRVDXe, emails, calls to both of you). I’ve had no response and contradictory info. Please help.

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READING 🌳

Books and mental wellbeing go hand in hand, which is why recommendations are central to our current project with @emmagannon. During her year of nothing, Emma found loads of comfort in her darkest moments with stories.

A 🧵 on a few of her choices

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If you’re serious about being in a serious relationship, accept no substitutes. Commit to the relationship you say you want by committing to the choices that reflect it. https://t.co/XY359bgLqW

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Boundaries mean you allow yourself to heal, grow and learn. You operate from a place of discernment and being more you instead of hiding yourself.

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Relationship Insanity involves carrying the same baggage, beliefs, behaviours, and attitudes, choosing variations of the same person in a different package, or gravitating to similar situations and then expecting different results.

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You’ve never been below par. Striving, though, for the impossible and unnecessary ideal of perfection guarantees feeling like you’re not enough. Start noticing where you’re inadvertently expecting too much of yourself so you can break the cycle.
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Sameness in your relationships (e.g. having a type, repeat situations and relationships) is a call to wake up from your pattern. You’re being invited to see what you couldn’t before so that you heal, grow, learn and love.

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Unquestioned beliefs and stories are at the heart of all painful relationships. When we say we desire a loving relationship, but our pattern is something else, we need to examine the discrepancies — the untruths.

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Pretending leads to feelings of rejection and abandonment. It’s like thinking, ‘I did everything right. I even tried to be just like you or your Perfect Woman/Man/Person, and you still don’t want me? I must be really unlovable!’

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If we have a pattern of unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships, on some level, we’re trying to right the wrongs of the past. We’re unwittingly drawn to people who represent our narrative about our worthiness, life, and love.

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We figure out what we want and who we are by discovering what doesn’t work and who we’re not. Our relationships help us understand and discover ourselves. We get to release emotional baggage and reclaim ourselves.

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If we want our relationships to go somewhere good, healthy, mutual and fulfilling, we’ve got to keep it real. We’ll know, for instance, when someone talks a good game but does not follow through with action. Superficial won’t be enough for us.

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Authentic relationships are mutually fulfilling with love, care, trust, and respect. Each of you is allowed to bring your respective needs, desires, expectations, feelings and opinions—your selves—to the relationship.

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No one, including yourself, should expect automatic and unquestionable compliance from you.

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Love, care, trust and respect are the foundation. While we don’t love someone as soon as we know them, living these values for ourselves and within our relationships means that we will not accept less than what we can already be and do for ourselves from others.

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When a relationship is mutually fulfilling, it’s loving not just in feelings but also in actions and intentions.

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Self-esteem has the word ‘self’ in it for a reason;
it’s about the way you treat and regard yourself. If it’s mostly about external esteem, so how others feel about and perceive you, you don’t get to have much of a self.

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Every relationship experience is a stepping stone to the relationship that’s most befitting of you.
You learn more about who you are and what you truly need, want, expect, feel, and think.

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