i don't know who needs to hear this but your ability to create the reality that you want is directly determined by your willingness to experience its opposite.
- saving money will have you feeling broke while it's actually making you rich.
- setting boundaries will have you feeling alone while you're creating new healthy relationships in your life.
- digging up your trauma will have you feeling broken while it's actually healing you.
- working out has you feeling weak while it's really making you strong.
- learning something new makes you feel dumb while it's making you more intelligent.
your ability to attain the thing that you want is directly correlated with how willing you are to experience its opposite. you have to be ok with being uncomfortable to truly achieve success!
Whatever happens, find your unfair advantage. That’s what makes people remember you, what makes you somewhat irreplaceable.
Maybe you're the funniest, with your ability to lighten up the mood in any room. Or you're the best presenter, with your powerful way with words. Or the best writer. Or the most liked employee in the department. Find your unfair advantage and own it. It may just be your superpower
I want to agree in part and disagree in part.
Firstly, whether she is a good woman or not, is beside the point. If you choose someone, you have a responsibility to them to love and to cherish.
The whole point of relationship/marriage is to do life together. This means that everything we have and everything we are, is for our mutual benefit and for the benefit of this relationship/family. Worthy of note is that, it is the responsibility of a father to give their child good education. I'm putting myself in the position of a child and the position of a father - the answer is the same. It is whom you are, that you bring to the relationship to invest in your partner and the relationship.
It is dangerous to teach women that they should go into relationships looking for a man to sponsor their life. It is dangerous to teach men that they have a responsibility to train women in school. It is dangerous to tell parents that their daughters would be trained by the man who chooses to date them. Unintentionally, you are pushing for the ownership of women because when someone lives with the mentality that he has to carry all your responsibility and improve your life, he develops the mindset that he owns you, because you're not doing anything for him.
The advice you give to young boys are meant to be given to parents. Let us encourage responsible parenting. The whole point of relationship is to love, not to parent. Young men are already under a lot of financial pressure. Parenting is a live time responsibility. You don't retire from it.
Having said that, I'm always conscious of privilege. Not every parent has the financial capacity to train their kids to the highest level. If you willingly choose to date someone, you have a responsibility to them to love and to cherish, and that includes investing in their growth. If you choose an uneducated, partly educated, 1st degree holder, you can make the best investment that improves your partner and the overall wellbeing of the home because when your partner wins, you win. The major problem with that tweet is that, even by omission, we are teaching women that it is not their responsibility to invest in men. Woman also have a responsibility to invest in their man's growth and to do regular shopping for them. You can't tell the man to invest in his woman's education be suse he will benefit from it, while not telling women the same thing. Will the woman not benefit from investing in her man?
To love is to GIVE love and to RECEIVE love. Please love by GIVING and TAKING.
- Chimamanda Adichie
We need to teach NIGERIAN women to love and to give, because most relationships are already one sided and unrequited. That is not love.
@Baba__Z Lowk no be ragebait.
He dey indirectly tell am true tho...
You gas to get some balls with these shawties, all that respect shit can be tiring dem go look u like nice guy😄
Why would you leave Islam for Atheism?
Haleemah, reading your post is sad, but it reveals a very common tragedy. You can claim to be religious, pray five times a day, have the dark mark on your forehead, and stay up for Tahajjud.
But if your foundation is built purely on rituals without knowledge, any small breeze will knock you down.
This was the core of my last lecture with the MSSN students at FUPRE some weeks back. We spent time unpacking this exact topic to prove the existence of God.
The goal was to make people understand that to attain Yaqeen (true certainty) in your faith, you need rational observation and conviction. Faith is not meant to be blind. It requires active reasoning.
Your core problem is glaring. You had all the outward actions of faith but lacked the intellectual grounding of Aqeedah. When those three girls challenged you to prove God exists, you failed the test.
The real issue is not that you lacked the answer in that moment. We all have blind spots. The tragedy is concluding that because you lacked the answer, no answer exists.
Why not ask those who are superior to you in knowledge? The fact that you do not know something does not mean there is no answer for it. You only allowed Shaitan to trick you into abandoning your foundation.
If you are ever confronted with this question again, here is a model answer you should say confidently:
It comes down to the undeniable law of cause and effect. Everything that begins to exist has a cause. The universe has a beginning, so it must have a cause outside of itself.
This cause must be uncaused, timeless, spaceless, and immensely powerful to bring space, time, and matter into existence.
Beyond that, look at the precision of the universe. The sheer design, balance, and fine-tuning of the cosmos point directly to an Intelligent Designer.
If you walk in the desert and find a complex wristwatch in the sand, common sense tells you a watchmaker built it. It did not assemble itself over billions of years by chance. The universe is infinitely more complex than a watch.
We do not believe in a Creator because of storybooks. We believe because logic, science, and the reality of creation demand that a Creator exists. You build your faith on rational conviction, not just emotion.
Those who are a bit knowledgeable amongst them might rush in with multiverse theories, quantum fluctuations, or asking "who created God"?
Here, I want you to understand that infinite regressions are logically impossible. A multiverse still requires a generator, quantum particles do not create themselves from absolute nothingness, and by definition, the Ultimate First Cause must be uncaused.
And to you aethist, I know you all will flood my page. I am ready for you all. It’s high time I focused on you guys to let the world know that you people are tools of Shaitan.
Allah knows best.
✅Let’s learn something tonight.
You guys have heard about cupping, which is Hijama. You know about the black seed. But there is another major branch of Prophetic Medicine that is almost entirely forgotten today.
It is called Sa'oot (سعوط).
What does it mean? Sa'oot is the Arabic term for administering medicine through the nose. Think of it like modern nasal drops or nasal inhalation. The Prophet (peace be upon him) used this method and heavily prescribed it for respiratory illnesses.
The most famous use of Sa'oot in the Sunnah involves a root called Qust al-Hindi, which is Indian Costus.
During the time of the Prophet, when a child had swollen tonsils (belubelu in local parlance) or a severe throat infection, mothers had a painful habit of physically pressing on the tonsils with their fingers to treat it.
The Prophet saw this and rebuked it. He told them to stop torturing their children and commanded them to use Sa'oot with Qust instead.
The process is very straightforward. You take the finely ground powder of the Qust, mix it with a few drops of olive oil or water, have the sick person tilt their head back, and drop it into the nostrils.
The medicine travels through the sinus passage, clears the respiratory tract, and attacks the throat infection directly from the source.
It shows the depth of Tibb an-Nabawi. We were not just told what herbs to consume. We were given the exact medical pathways to administer them long before modern clinics created nasal sprays.
Allah knows best.
@Ayoka_eduu1 😭never said you were man.
Just stating what is fact, I can actually back this up tho, it's not mere utterance .
But since it's your "talent", who am i to take that from you
@Ayoka_eduu1 Maybe a slight break from the dream, but anything longer than a period of time It's impossible to continue same dream, maybe some other time you might experience a similar dream, but not the same