Muse

Socially-awkward introvert| Lover of art| Dr. (PhD)| 📿

[Muse @Cy_phie]

Kinda did a thing this week 🥺❤️

[. @Dboysback65]

My dreams really just be letting anybody in, lmao like why is this bitch here fr 😭

[Mario Khumalo @MarioKhumalo]

Eyewitness News calls the same protest in South Africa xenophobic.

Double standards are part of Mainstream Media.

[B N S L @_BNSL]

The fear of another man struggling with loving my kids is why I do my best not to die. Another man being told "You don't make an effort, Vusi" nge ngane zam 😭😭😭

I even swallow a lot of "Voetseks" ku road rage because of this fear. Ungavumi ngam, Nkosi 😭

[Soul_whispering_healer @soulwhisperingh]

Do not let people gaslight you into thinking that duality does not exist. You can be grateful and annoyed. You can want more and be grateful for what you have. You can be angry and frustrated and still be grateful. A lot of religious and spiritual gaslighting out here.

[ૐ @BirkinAura]

actually your community IS coming to save you, people are going to show up for you, love is going to find you, strangers are going to be like angels, the world conspires for your highest good

[SATAN @DETROITHEEMFAKE]

I used to think like this until I started dealing with ppl, platonically and romantically, who were secure enough to be genuinely kind. if you are mean to me or I have to be mean to you for you to respect me as a human, you're a loser to me and you will not be in my life

[♰ 𝙽𝚊𝚎𝚝𝚘 @fw_naetoblaq]

introvert me waiting for someone to fall in love with me while spending every weekend at home.

[N. @naledisibisi]

you guys are so talented and this caption EATS

[MAJOR @Squeeze1i]

Having AUTISM is so funny because after EVERY conversation i still walk away like oh i was supposed to ask them more questions back wasn’t i

[uNyana Womntu🇵🇸 @BhutiThole]

When my father died, my other siblings took us to court befuna umzimba kaTata, laSisi knew that I was very down kulanyanga and payday ikude, wandifakela imali yamagqwetha and said I must fight kunqamke izandla. Siseka abantu ngoba siyabazi ngabantu abanjani.

[Shezi @__Shezi]

Sorry but I need to get out the hood

[Nathi @Na_thi_]

Ukuwa komuntu into encane kabi😭

[Ngwana ko bo Ntsizwa @BuhleDMahlangu]

And that’s the reason why people at work be so miserable, step outside on weekends, pass by the mall after work and get a nice meal, go for a run when you get home. Have a life after work.

[Tonka Jahari @aseisheated]

I hope the feminist goddesses that fought for my right to have a license and a car know that I drive myself to cute restaurants and eat my own money when I’m down. I love them so much. The real Jesuses!

[Sive @sivenathinkosii]

not me , nibe safe 🫶🏼

[Eniola_OG @ab_ennie]

Do you know what I miss?
Waking up to “I know you’re asleep but” paragraphs.

[jonzing. @ehisssss]

i think very highly of myself; not out of ego, but because of growth. i know exactly what it took for me to become me.

[smoothie @shedrinkswater]

Female friendships can become an incredibly complex dance of manipulation, gaslighting, people-pleasing, love, care, selfishness, selflessness, jealousy, envy, and competition.

There is often immense tenderness there, but also an entire subterranean social game operating beneath the surface.

If you are good at managing these dynamics, regulating your reactions, reading subtext, and still participating in the game while remaining human, you will probably have a decent number of close female friendships. But even a little social awkwardness, emotional transparency, or inability to tolerate masked behaviour can make female friendships extremely difficult to navigate.

Your friends can slowly become your bullies, and it takes an enormous amount of emotional labour to keep moving through those dynamics when you do not naturally possess the social machinery required for them. You begin noticing the injustice, indirectness, performative sweetness, hidden hostility, constant testing, and you cannot keep pretending it is normal.

That is why some women do not have many female friends. It is not always because they are jealous, male-centred, or a “red flag.” Sometimes they simply cannot metabolise the amount of social theatre, disguised aggression, and psychological negotiation required to survive certain female circles.

The amount of mindspace you have to pay to remain inside such relationships can be enormous.

[2Melo 🇿🇦®️ @Stayela206]

The conversation cannot begin and end with the rights of migrants. It must also include the rights of citizens, the capacity of the state, the availability of resources, and the impact on communities. Anything less is an incomplete and dishonest discussion.