Eric FitzMedrud

Psychologist for relationship and sexual issues | Author: "The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex" | Public speaker he/him

[Justin Lehmiller @JustinLehmiller]

There’s a growing narrative out there that says “men are trash”—a phrase that has become a common internet punchline. Now some are asking: “Is it even OK to be a man?” For today's show, I spoke with author @drericfitz https://t.co/I21MXhc8xb

[Kathy Caprino @kathycaprino]

Check out my latest episode of #FindingBrave, “Why Consent Is a Must for Connection and Respect in Life and Work” with @drericfitz

Listen → https://t.co/Ru1CGtFqK1

#consent #consentmatters #consentculture #feministmen #healthymasculinity #relationshipadviceformen

[Kathy Caprino @FindingBrave]

Check out my latest episode of #FindingBrave, “Why Consent Is a Must for Connection and Respect in Life and Work” with @drericfitz

Listen → https://t.co/6GU33RYQpu

#consent #consentmatters #consentculture #feministmen #healthymasculinity #relationshipadviceformen

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

I cherished my conversation with Traci Ruble on the Sidewalk Talk Podcast. We got deep, real, and vulnerable. Check it out!

https://t.co/bSljyulzT7

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

From the episode: "We have to shed this idea that we are this definitive thing of a good person or a good man. We are flawed and vulnerable and we are trying."

https://t.co/r6wNYu6rTp

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

@leonscafe31 . . . that, and it also can't come out perfectly because perfection is a lie.

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

@DrDavidLey Congratulations!

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

Today, I am a published author.

What a journey.

It began as a blog post in response to a #MeToo story.

It became a whole book for men about relationships, sex, consent, and pleasure. This is a book to build you up, not tear you down.

https://t.co/HibNdjTYRg

[Nazanin Kafaee @NazaninKFP]

I’m recruiting participants for a study on sexual attitudes!
You just need to be over 18 and willing to fill out a 30-min survey! And you’ll have a chance to win a $100 amazon gift card.

https://t.co/pDiRWQglYE

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

Join me in virtually attending the World Sexual Health Day at Stanford on September 8th. Hosted by Sara Nasserzadeh, Ph.D.

The theme for this year is CONSENT!

Follow this link to get your free ticket:
https://t.co/KkizbRLBqW

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

Interview with me on Ken, masculinity, and consent in the Barbie movie just published today!

https://t.co/DjKmUv7cNN

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

Take break the X dumpster fire and listen to this podcast about pleasure and consent instead!

https://t.co/4fJQPS9XdM

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

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[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

@SexWithEmily Way ahead of you. I’m celebrating a thirty-five plus year run! 😂🤣

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

Respond to CAMFT's piblication of a transphobic letter to the editor - Sign the Petition! https://t.co/vgjn1RG1Cw via @Change

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

This is an important notice about the silencing of academic freedom and the profound importance of sexological research.

https://t.co/BCDeVG2HO0

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

Good communication is for you and benefits you regardless of how your partner responds. Don't get caught thinking good communication is a better form of manipulation.

https://t.co/aS0zgi9SfK

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

@NicoleRPrause I’ve screen captured those stats. I think it will appeal to some of my engineering clients with culturally-based MDPU. I can take the slower but effective path of helping them trace their shame, or maybe appeal to their intellect and let the data convince them.

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

Regulating desire is possible. My favorite way is to help the man expand his view of the situation. Is desire your only goal? What about goals like not hurting your partner, maintaining your relationship, and giving your partner pleasure? What are you doing to reach those goals?

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

Facts about desire help men regulate desire.

Though desire is beautiful, misconceptions about desire can cause confusion, hurtful actions, painful feelings, and broken relationships.

The truth about desire is . . .

[Eric FitzMedrud @drericfitz]

Not everyone experiences desire the same way. Spontaneous desire shows up inside the person. Contextual desire depends on relational & environmental context. Responsive desire emerges when something feels good. See Nagoski's "Come As You Are" for this and the next point.