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[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

The vast majority of abuse does not happen in public. It happens in private. Behind closed doors, in conversations no one else hears, in patterns that are hard to explain until you finally step back and see the whole thing.

From last year into this year, I was in a volatile, emotionally abusive relationship with Billy, someone in the BDSM / Findom community. Someone many of you know, and someone whose reputation already came with warnings I previously did not want to believe.

When people spoke poorly of him, I defended him. I believed there was more to the story. I believed the version of him I saw at first. Charming, tender, protective, loyal, and misunderstood.

That is part of what makes this so painful to say now. I protected the image of someone who eventually abused me behind closed doors.

I am not sharing this because I want drama. I am sharing because I am done minimizing what happened to me just because it happened where other people could not see it, or where other people were not willing to see it.

People who are abusive in private can still be charming, well-liked, generous, funny, respected, and kind to everyone except the person they are hurting. That is part of why it takes so long to understand what is happening. You keep comparing the person everyone else sees to the person you are experiencing alone, and you start questioning yourself.

For months, I was left confused, destabilized, emotionally raw, and pushed into one of the darkest mental states of my life. I kept trying to explain my pain to someone I had repeatedly told was hurting me. I kept hoping for accountability, care, repair, and basic honesty. Instead I was made to feel disposable, replaceable, and unreasonable for reacting to pain I did not create by myself, while the people around him continued to praise and celebrate his accountability, growth, and accomplishments.

I am not ready to share every detail publicly, and I may never share everything. But I am finally ready to stop carrying this in silence.

I tried addressing this directly with Billy more than once. I tried to be heard without making it public. I tried to give him the chance to acknowledge the extreme harm he caused and do the right thing.

That never happened. And at a certain point, silence and avoidance do not get to rewrite what happened to me.

This is not an invitation for debate, gossip, or interrogation. It is me naming my experience plainly. Billy abused me for 8 months behind closed doors. It changed me deeply. And I am choosing to tell the truth without protecting the image of someone who did not protect me.

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

Shocked that someone believed me without me having to desperately plead my entire case beforehand. Not because the abuse was not real. Not because it didn’t happen. But because someone actually looked at what was happening and didn’t instantly try to warp it into something else.

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

I had become so used to having my reality warped. I thought that just like some others, the police may very well choose to deny what happened. Having them take a look a ONE abuse incident and saying “oh yeah, the judge will grant this for sure”, had me shocked

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

It’s more than a just dog pile. More than “drama”. It’s making fun of me as a victim and survivor of severe abuse. In multiple Twitter spaces. Multiple days. For hours at a time. Making fun of my health. My pain. Making fun of me for reposting my tweets. For being abused. For standing up for myself when others tried to deny my reality. But if that is the person who someone wants to represent themselves as, who am I to stop anyone

[Libriscent @libriscent]

"Reactive abuse" is a manipulation tactic where someone intentionally pushes, disrespects, or humiliates a woman until she finally snaps and yells or cries. The second she reacts, he flips the script, points his finger, and says, "See? Look how crazy she is, I'm the victim here."

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

Shocked that someone believed me without me having to desperately plead my entire case beforehand. Not because the abuse was not real. Not because it didn’t happen. But because someone actually looked at what was happening and didn’t instantly try to warp it into something else.

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

I had become so used to having my reality warped. I thought that just like some others, the police may very well choose to deny what happened. Having them take a look a ONE abuse incident and saying “oh yeah, the judge will grant this for sure”, had me shocked

[Queen Amethyst @Queen_Amethyst3]

Healing from trauma is one of the most challenging and courageous journeys a person can take. It is not a straight path. It often looks less like climbing a ladder and more like wandering through a forest, sometimes feeling lost, sometimes discovering just how strong you’ve become.

A few things that often help:

✅Acknowledge what happened
Trauma loses some of its power when we stop minimizing it or pretending it didn’t affect us. Naming the wound is often the first step toward healing it.

🛡️ Create safety
The nervous system cannot heal while it believes danger is everywhere. Safe people, healthy boundaries, stable routines, and environments where you can exhale matter more than many people realize.

💜 Practice self-compassion
Many survivors carry shame for how they reacted during or after abuse. The truth is that your mind and body did what they needed to do to survive. Survival responses are not character flaws.

🧠 Understand your triggers
Hypervigilance, anxiety, people-pleasing, emotional numbness, anger, trust issues, and fear of abandonment are often trauma responses. Understanding them helps you respond with awareness instead of self-judgment.

🤝 Connect with healthy people
Trauma often happens in relationships, and healing frequently happens in relationships too. Being seen, believed, respected, and valued by safe people can help rebuild trust in yourself and others.

📝 Tell your story when you’re ready
Whether through therapy, writing, art, support groups, or trusted friends, giving your experiences a voice can help transform pain into meaning.

Allow grief
Many survivors grieve not only what happened to them, but what they never received: safety, protection, validation, consistency, or love. Grief is not weakness. It is part of healing.

🫶🏼Be patient with yourself
Healing is not measured by whether you still have bad days. It’s measured by how you recover from them. Progress is often found in the moments when you respond differently than you would have a year ago.

One truth I’ve seen again and again:

Trauma changes people, but it does not have to define them.

You can be deeply wounded and still worthy of love.
You can have scars and still be beautiful.
You can carry painful memories and still build a life filled with joy, purpose, connection, and peace.

The goal is not to become the person you were before the trauma.

The goal is to become the person you choose to be after it.

-Queen Amethyst 💜

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

remember you will never get an apology, closure, anything from an abuser and narcissist. let the legal system do its work. return to the peace you had before them. you made it out🖤

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

@Queen_Amethyst3 I’m so sorry you went through that.💔 Thank you for protecting her and yourself, mama❤️🥹🫂

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

remember you will never get an apology, closure, anything from an abuser and narcissist. let the legal system do its work. return to the peace you had before them. you made it out🖤

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

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[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

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[Dr Karen Mitchell PhD @karenmitchell__]

What is the full arsenal of weaponry of the narcissist, psychopath (human predator)?

What are the tactics the human predator uses to destroy others and avoid accountability?

There are 25 of them according to my research and they are all used with precision and power and far more brazenly and potently than non-predators might use them.

1. Intimidation with the intent to create fear.
2. Isolates (the target from their family, friends, colleagues and networks through the use of outrageous false narrative and manipulation).
3. Weaponises the justice system.
4. Accuses the target of their own nefarious deeds, (reverse attribution or DARVO), blames others.
5. Pretends to be the victim.
6. Data is sacred - bribes, steals, breaks laws and goes to great lengths to get information on their target that can be used to compromise them.
7. Blocks, evades, deflects.
8. Creates a contrived sense of deep connection with targets and those they want to groom to be complicit.
9. Focuses on evidence reduction and lack of transparency.
10. Diminishes, degrades, disempowers, discredits.
11. Uses convoluted discussion.
12. Confuses and creates chaos.
13. Publicly and privately provokes.
14. Justifies and excuses.
15. Ingratiates themselves to people in power.
16. Delays and postpones.
17. Diminishes, denies, minimises.
18. Blackmails and bribes.
19. Obligates.
20. Forces, coerces, bullies.
21. Creates and capitalises on divisiveness.
22. Moves in and out of supportive and non-supportive approaches.
23. Attacks process and the qualifications, experience and integrity of professionals challenging them.
24. Engages in a complex set of behaviours which are difficult to see through and understand collectively.
25. Mirrors and copies.

[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

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[Goddess Avi ✨ @CraveAvi]

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[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

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[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

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[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

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[Brooke🦋 @findombrooke]

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