I don’t want a soft life because I’m lazy. I want a soft life because I’ve spent most of my life in survival mode. my nervous system has been in fight or flight since childhood and now I’m choosing peace and stability.
You have to learn the person you love.
You cannot love someone into being who you need them to be. You cannot assume you know them just because you feel deeply for them. You have to study them. You have to understand their personality, their wounds, their attachment style, their triggers, their unspoken fears, their love language, the way they process pain and joy and conflict. I learned this the hard way, by loving people I never truly took the time to know. I projected my own expectations onto them. I assumed they thought like me, needed like me, loved like me. And when they did not meet my unspoken expectations, I blamed them instead of realizing that I never actually learned who they were. That lesson cost me relationships. It cost me misunderstandings that could have been avoided. It cost me the pain of being in love with a version of someone that never really existed. But it also taught me that love is not just a feeling. It is a study. It is a commitment to truly knowing the person you claim to love. Not the idea of them. Not the potential of them. But the real, complex, flawed, beautiful human being standing in front of you. And once you learn them, you can truly love them. Not as a projection. But as a person.
Saya akan nyatakan lagi, teroris OPM ini tidak pandang bulu dalam menyiksa dan mencabut nyawa SIAPA PUN, yang mereka "curigai" sebagai "mata-mata Indonesia", OAP maupun non-OAP, semuanya akan mereka bantai. Tentu saja anjing-anjing penjilat OPM akan menjustifikasi kekejian ini.
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The older I get, the more I understand why people disappear into gardening baking, reading, and long walks. Not because life got boring. Because peace became valuable.
Uncommon advice:
If you don't know what to pursue in life right now, pursue yourself.
Pursue becoming the healthiest, happiest, most healed, most present, most confident version of yourself. Then the right path will reveal itself.
My therapist told me that
"There's a theory that depression is sometimes the soul's way of rejecting the life you're forcing yourself to live. It's not failure it's misalignment. Your spirit shuts down when you're too far from your purpose, people, or path." And then it all made sense.