Jason VanRuler

Author | Therapist | Speaker. I help high-performing leaders get a reset when life, leadership, or relationships go sideways.

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Jason VanRuler on Healing From the Past, The Secret to Building His Social Media Platform, and Why He’s Committed to Going to Therapy for the Rest of His Life.

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Today's #TSFSummerLovin episode is all about attachment theory and I cannot wait to see how many 🤯s this conversation gets from you. Therapist @jason_vanruler is with us as we talk about walking towards secure attachment in all relationships.

Listen: https://t.co/RZHwRVH6rQ

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The difference between healthy and unhealthy dating is intention.

You cultivate it by:

-Knowing what you need.

-Setting boundaries.

- Having standards.

-Knowing your worth.

Healthy dating leads to healthy relationships.

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If you want to develop and promote connection in any relationship, create and work towards a mutual goal.

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Would you add or subtract anything from the list?

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How to have a better relationship than 99% of people:

- Be trustworthy
- Be willing AND try
- Make time AND be present
- Commit to learning
- Listen AND talk
- Repair after conflict

Every month, talk about what works and what doesn't. Keep what works.

Have fun along the way.

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Emotional Maturity is the currency of a healthy relationship.

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If you're able to do something but don't have the motivation, nothing happens. If you're not confident in your ability to perform well but you're still willing to try, something will get done. Willing beats able any day of the week.

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How are you channeling your effort? If you're distracted with an idea of something you're aspiring to be, it might help to take a step back and focus on the person you already are.

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Reminder to take a few minutes to breath deeply - it's a new day, and work begins again tomorrow.

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Don't be fooled - doubt often tries to fill the place that faith should. If you let it take priority, you'll sabotage your progress and miss out on the opportunity faith provides to move forward.

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Talking to yourself is typically taboo, but therapist and clinical director Jenna Riemersma encourages it. In the last episode of Okay, What's Next? Season 1, we learn about the psychotherapy model Internal Family Systems and how we can understand and help all our "parts."

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Just posted a photo @ Denver, Colorado https://t.co/oX5jY7FZz5

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Just posted a photo @ Omaha, Nebraska https://t.co/0g3bKs10km

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Just posted a photo @ Sioux Falls, South Dakota https://t.co/7XLbh4K4Tz

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Just posted a photo @ Sioux Falls, South Dakota https://t.co/FjgyfcZZFa