Everything happens for a reason. Nothing is a coincidence. There are times God will allow us to go through a difficult situation, so later on, we can be instrumental in helping others overcome.
As for the Jebusites the inhabitants of Jerusalem, the children of Judah could not drive them out; but the Jebusites dwell with the children of Judah at Jerusalem unto this day.
Joshua 15:63 [KJV]
Itโs time to get honest with yourself. Donโt go another year letting something you have control over hold you back. Get your soul healthy. Pull up those bitter roots. Start turning things over to God. Release the worry, the hurt, what didnโt work out.