Men are losing status, identity, and the easy financial paths to adulthood that their fathers had. Women are gaining more opportunities, getting educated, delaying marriage/kids in pursuit of independence. Men see women as taking their place and reverting to misogynist values. Women have raised their standards and see most men as refusing to evolve. Every platform from TikTok to Twitter is rewarding content that deepens the divide.
As a player in this game of life, stop announcing your plans.
Stop explaining your strategy.
Stop telling people what you’re going to do before you’ve done it.
The moves you advertise are the moves that will be countered by competitors.
Build in the dark. Show up in the light.
Society tells women they’re ‘running out of time’ as a control mechanism. If you believe you’re behind, you make desperate decisions — settle for the wrong partner, stay in the wrong career, stop taking risks.
Women who start later are more successful because they’ve spent years building expertise, relationships and learning what not to do.
Humans can be emotionally volatile when it comes to decision making. The ability to manage those feelings during stressful situations is a superpower the elite have mastered.
One method to emotional control is the 90 Second Rule:
In our brains emotions naturally peak and pass through your body in roughly 90 seconds. Anger, fear, shame — all of them.
If you can acknowledge these spikes in the moment and give no response, the feeling dissolves on its own.
Most people don’t wait and react to the feeling by:
making impulsive decisions
responding with shouting and violence
creating self harm
Then they spend weeks dealing with the consequences that 90secs could have prevented.