all relationships can survive mistakes, but they cannot survive patterns. Repeated behavior isn't a mistake, it's a decision, apologies lose meaning when the actions never change
I didn't cohabit exactly, but I visited him without calling. There, I met a mature lady cooking. That was the first time I ate native rice with stockfish.
Anyway, he told her I was his cousin visiting from school, even though I was already working, not schooling. I slept in the living room, and they definitely enjoyed themselves that night while I lay on the couch in the living room listening to "Uyo Meyo" by Teni and crying.
She made breakfast the next morning, I ate shamelessly, and then I left.
I've never been able to share this with anyone until today.
Fear men...
Run from men...
Avoid men...
Pay half the bills. Fulfill all the traditional wife roles. Give birth and nurture the children. Make sure the firstborn is a son. Give up your name. Give up your property. For what? A man? A man who struggles with the idea of coming home to you???
A man will visit his in-laws and be treated like royalty but a woman will visit her in-laws and be expected to audition for the role of a maid. The game is rigged.