Richard Nicholls

He/Him, Podcaster, Award Winner, Liberal lefty do-gooder, Husband and Dad, Dancing Animal, 75% caffeine. Best Selling Author etc.

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If you're having a bad day remember this.

You are worthy of love and happiness.
You are worthy of being treated with respect and kindness.
You are worthy of being seen and heard.
You are worthy of being loved for who you are.
You are worthy.
I hope your day gets better soon.

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Trying hard not to think about something almost always backfires. Here is why that happens and what to do instead.

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Casually calling stress "a panic attack" steals the word from people who actually have one — and makes it harder for them to be believed.

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Talking about something difficult doesn't always make the thing smaller.
It's like someone taking one end of something heavy you've been carrying alone.

It hasn't changed. But now you can actually move with it.

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Monday Motivation!

Just for today, try and talk more about the things you love rather than the things you hate

#MotivationMonday

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This is the clip where I go off on a bit of a tangent about medical history.
The short version is that talking about your problems still helps. The longer version involves tobacco smoke and mercury and I think you should watch it.

Full episode out this month. Comments are open.

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The word "okay" is doing more emotional work than you realise. And what it means to you personally might be quietly dragging your mood down every single day.

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Resilience isn't being good at failing.

It's practising dealing with challenges so you've already got the habit of picking yourself back up.

And I know that as a therapist, I'm biassed saying talking about your problems helps.
But it does. I'd do something else otherwise.

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Happy Friday!

#FeelGoodFriday

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"Why is my life such a mess?" is a question.
It might seem rhetorical at the time but because brains don't like unanswered questions they will always look for ways to answer them and probably not in a helpful way!

Here's what to ask instead.

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Have a super day everyone!
Make sure to stay hydrated. There're a lot of folk out there who are quite out of touch with how their body feels and don't notice just how thirsty they are.
If that's you, you might need to check in regularly.

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At some point you might realise you're not being pushed down that path anymore.
You're just walking it out of habit.

The kids who defied the odds in the Hawaii study didn't wait for circumstances to change.
They found their own people and decided they were in the driving seat.

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When your brain tries to predict what to do next, it only has one place to look. That's why repeating old patterns isn't weakness, it's just neuroscience.

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Us Brits spent all winter longing for warmth. We were fools. Absolute fools.

Always be careful what you wish for! 🫠

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Sometimes the critical voice we hear in our head isn't actually ours at all. It belongs to someone from our past. And once you realise that something shifts.

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Monday Motivation!

Knowing there’s a light at the end makes your journey through the tunnel less daunting

#MotivationMonday

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A 1955 study is still one of the most important pieces of resilience research ever done.
700 children with hard lives and difficult starts.
Yet one in three thrived.
Not because they were tougher or luckier. But because they believed they had some say in what happened next.

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Half joking here, I do sometimes hear about nice Dads nowadays, honestly!

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Happy Friday!

#FeelGoodFriday

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Most of us think our habits are choices. But a lot of them were decided for us a long time ago — and we've just never questioned them.