If you're having a bad day remember this.
You are worthy of love and happiness.
You are worthy of being treated with respect and kindness.
You are worthy of being seen and heard.
You are worthy of being loved for who you are.
You are worthy.
I hope your day gets better soon.
Talking about something difficult doesn't always make the thing smaller.
It's like someone taking one end of something heavy you've been carrying alone.
It hasn't changed. But now you can actually move with it.
This is the clip where I go off on a bit of a tangent about medical history.
The short version is that talking about your problems still helps. The longer version involves tobacco smoke and mercury and I think you should watch it.
Full episode out this month. Comments are open.
The word "okay" is doing more emotional work than you realise. And what it means to you personally might be quietly dragging your mood down every single day.
Resilience isn't being good at failing.
It's practising dealing with challenges so you've already got the habit of picking yourself back up.
And I know that as a therapist, I'm biassed saying talking about your problems helps.
But it does. I'd do something else otherwise.
"Why is my life such a mess?" is a question.
It might seem rhetorical at the time but because brains don't like unanswered questions they will always look for ways to answer them and probably not in a helpful way!
Here's what to ask instead.
Have a super day everyone!
Make sure to stay hydrated. There're a lot of folk out there who are quite out of touch with how their body feels and don't notice just how thirsty they are.
If that's you, you might need to check in regularly.
At some point you might realise you're not being pushed down that path anymore.
You're just walking it out of habit.
The kids who defied the odds in the Hawaii study didn't wait for circumstances to change.
They found their own people and decided they were in the driving seat.
When your brain tries to predict what to do next, it only has one place to look. That's why repeating old patterns isn't weakness, it's just neuroscience.
Sometimes the critical voice we hear in our head isn't actually ours at all. It belongs to someone from our past. And once you realise that something shifts.
A 1955 study is still one of the most important pieces of resilience research ever done.
700 children with hard lives and difficult starts.
Yet one in three thrived.
Not because they were tougher or luckier. But because they believed they had some say in what happened next.