in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you created.
My man said something to me that really stuck.
He told me, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your dad, I’m your partner. You’re free to make your own choices. Just understand that every choice has consequences. If you choose something that damages what we’ve built, that’s on you.”
He said, “I’ll always tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s what healthy communication looks like. But if you keep stepping over the line after I’ve shown you where it is, then you were never really protecting us to begin with.”
And honestly, that’s what accountability in a relationship sounds like.
There’s an idea called “Occam’s razor.” It suggests that the simplest explanation is usually the correct one. Our minds love complexity, but reality is often much simpler than we make it.
thinking about that time my friend hired an animal psychic to do a reading on her horse named delmar & she said “there’s someone he doesn’t like. they call him a sandwich?” and they could not decipher what that meant until she told me about it
bc it was me. i called him deli sub
last night at the bar i saw a pretty girl touching up on an ugly guy and i said to her friend “you should tell her she can do better” and the friend was like “that’s her boyfriend” 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭i need to start minding my fuckin business