Michelle Pooley

CEO West Wales Domestic Abuse Service Supporting women to address abuse. Founder member Break4Change. Addressing inequalities 4 women & men. Breaking silence.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @WitchyMcWitch @38355274c @JackMerched @legalfeminist All have been taken off now. If there are any more then that is a legacy from the original.

[Dr Rachel Clarke @doctor_oxford]

This is one of the most heart-breaking & important articles I have ever read - from someone whose voices are so rarely heard, a teenaged girl.

If you want to understand online misogyny in all its devastating impact, please read this shattering piece.

Here’s one appalling extract:

"A few days ago I saw an Instagram reel of a young woman talking about how she had been raped six years ago, struggled with thoughts of suicide afterwards, but managed to rebuild her life again. Among the comments – the majority of which were from men – were things like “Well at least you had some”, “No way, she’s unrapeable”, “Hope you didn’t talk this much when it happened”, “Bro could have picked a better option.” Reading those comments, which had thousands of likes and many boys agreeing with them, made me feel sick.”

And here’s the impact on this teenager’s self-esteem:

"Using social media has ruined my self-esteem & my relation to being a girl in this world, & nearly every day I feel hatred towards my gender, my appearance, or even teenage girls as a category. The misogyny I see from boys my age online, which is echoed in real life too, has made me grow resentful and bitter towards them, as much as I try to avoid it. As wrong as it is, I persistently find myself considering if there are truly any boys out there who are not misogynistic to some extent, & have even questioned whether I can find love in the future because of this.”

Our daughters do not have to grow up in a world that teaches them they're "community pussy" while still children. Teen boys aren't born misoygnistic - they learn these attitudes from adults. This is on every one of us, male and female alike, to fix. Banning kids from social media won't come close to addressing the fundamental misogyny that's alive, well and thriving in contemporary society. If all of us refused to accept it, called it out for what it is, culture would change.

What a brave young woman this author is.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @WitchyMcWitch @38355274c @JackMerched @legalfeminist Have tried to explain and will do more to sort.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @WitchyMcWitch @38355274c @JackMerched @legalfeminist Thank you for the update and letting everyone know.

[David Challen @David_Challen]

I’ve long supported @centreWJ and their work w/abused women who kill their tormentors.

Coercive control traps victims. Some are killed. Some are driven to suicide. Some act to survive.

This isn’t about excusing violence. It’s about understanding it to prevent it.

Watch Now ⬇️

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@birdwoman1966 @Norbett1010 @WRNWales @legalfeminist Good morning. I am not the CEO of CARMDAS. Today conversations have been had in a very thoughtful and kind way and the highlighted issue has been looked at and has been changed. Thank you to those who pointed out this mistake.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @CeriRosser @legalfeminist Oh now you are telling me what I should do. Shame you could not contact us directly and discuss in a friendly manner something that feminists and those who are kind would normally do. Nice to hide behind a network but take out a woman who is working hard to support other women.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@Norbett1010 @WRNWales @legalfeminist Because it isn’t

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@Norbett1010 @WRNWales @legalfeminist @WestWalesDAS The organisation I work did not put out an advert with the information as quoted. I was accused on here about not understanding the law- that is why I responded. When you work in partnership sometimes other organisations put details out you are not aware of. Hope that explains

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @Bechemel @legalfeminist @WestWalesDAS Yes @WestWalesDAS adverts are clear.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@CeriRosser @WRNWales @legalfeminist Will be discussing tomorrow. Something that maybe @WRNWales might have considered before trying to prevent women from accessing very precious DA services in rural wales

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @Bechemel @legalfeminist @WestWalesDAS No you are taking something out of context. It hurts when having worked for years to prevent Violence against women and girls you choose to take action against the very women who have worked for years to make change happen and can’t be polite enough to check the details.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @Norbett1010 @legalfeminist This is not the advert that @westwalesdas put out.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @Bechemel @legalfeminist Please can you stop telling me as the CEO of @WestWalesDAS that it is us. I can see what you have picked up from an advert but this is not an advert that @WestWalesDAS has sent out. Check your facts it isn’t my organisations advert.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @Bechemel @legalfeminist You have this all wrong. Please get your facts right.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @legalfeminist @ForWomenScot with respect I do. Just because you read something that isn’t even part of the organisation I work with. You are not helping feminists who have worked hard in the field of domestic abuse to support women and girls. If you had any guts you would have contacted us to understand

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @legalfeminist @ForWomenScot You are having a go @westwalesdas but you are wrong. Please do not make assumptions

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@WRNWales @Bechemel @legalfeminist You really have it all wrong as you are targeting the wrong organisation when you have a go at organisations that are truly feminist. You destroy the very women that helped and continue to prevent violence against women and girls.

[Michelle Pooley @Texrus]

@Norbett1010 @WRNWales @legalfeminist That isn’t what it says