One corner of social media is just a constant morass of people complaining about “India in practice” arguing against people defending “India in theory”.
Honoured to be featured alongside sheer legends 🤩🙏 Thank you so much!
Here's the longer version of this clip taken during a performance with #MadrasMehfil a music collective established by @myHighway & yours truly ✨
https://t.co/BA7h53ErY3
Some Malhar to end the weekend!
Clips featuring:
Begum Farida Kannum
Ustad Ammanat Ali Khan
Ustad Mehdi Haasan
Vandana Srinivasan
Shreya Goshal
Compositions by:
Ustad Akthar Hussain Khan
Naushad Ali
Pandit Hridynath Mangeshkar
My abusive husband never told me what I should wear, but I ended up avoiding the clothes he didn’t like anyway 😣This is how coercive control works…
One day, I came to the kitchen wearing a black blouse My husband screwed up his face and asked me why I was wearing black (he believed it was the color of evil). He said I looked ugly in that blouse and that he didn’t like it. I told him that was fine, he didn’t have to wear it.
Then he brought our 5-year-old son into the room. “Mummy doesn’t look good in black, does she?” he asked our child. Looking at his father and knowing very well that it’s best to agree, he nodded. “Yes, black is not a nice color mummy,” he told me.
Fuming that he’d involve our child, I told him he is not to comment on my clothes again, nor involve our child. And that set him off… He lectured me for 2 hours on how I should work on my reactions to improve myself, how he has a right to give his views, and so on. In total, the discussion about the blouse lasted 3 hours. 😤
A month later, I was choosing my outfit, and I went to reach for my black blouse, but then I hesitated. Was it worth it the hassle? Did I really have the energy to go through all that again? I decided I didn’t and I chose something else.
And this is exactly how coercive control works. You learn to choose the easier option just to keep the peace and avoid the negative consequences. And bit-by-bit you fall in line with how they want you to be, until eventually there is no part of you left. Everything about ‘you’ is exactly how they want it.
#coercivecontrol #emotionalabuse
what’s wrong babe you barely touched your item you ordered off the internet in the hopes that it would fix your life but quickly realized it was just another object taking up space in your house
How women IMAGINE they'd react to sexual harassment is wildly different from how they ACTUALLY react when harassed.
Julie Woodzicka & @ProfLaFrance created sexual harassment in lab and tested how women reacted when harassed by a male interviewer in real time.
What happened:🧵
I’m going to say something that needs to be said. The epidemic of people, in public places like coffee shops and airplanes, taking a phone call on speaker or watching a video without headphones is out of control. We need to shame this behavior better.