When I heard about Senator Graham’s death last night, the first thing I thought about was not all the things he said and did in service of Donald Trump. I thought of the time before Donald Trump when he was a brother to Senator John McCain.
A time when senators from different parties could fight about politics and still be friends. A time when a conservative Republican from South Carolina could say of my father: “If you can’t admire Joe Biden as a person, you’ve got a problem. He’s the nicest person I’ve ever met in politics. As good a man as God ever created.”
That is the Senator Graham I will remember today. Not because I have forgotten what came after. Because in that memory there is hope. Hope for a country where brothers can fight like hell over policy and still share a meal, and a laugh, and the loss of the people they love.
I will choose to remember the time before Trump. Because I believe in an America after Trump.
When that conditioning goes unchecked, it travels with them into every space they enter. It turns a disagreement into a battle for supremacy, whether they are in a locker room, a boardroom, or a progressive, gender-fluid space.
Having spent significant time navigating traditionally male spaces, being invited into sacred female spaces, and walking freely through nonbinary spaces, I’ve paid attention to how different groups handle conflict, vulnerability, and community.
This isn't about inherent malice; it’s about conditioning. From a young age, the biological male ego is often taught that their worth is tied to dominance, control, and never being perceived as weak.
In 1983, Higgins became a registered nurse, fighting the HIV/AIDS epidemic on the front lines until his own death from the virus in 1994.
Read more about Thom Higgins and his legacy on my @Substack: https://t.co/V5vGxRiPxA
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In 1977, activist Thom Higgins threw a banana cream pie at anti-gay crusader Anita Bryant on live TV. While history remembers the spectacle, Higgins was actually a brilliant, multi-dimensional architect of the early gay liberation movement. Here is his story… ⬇️
Higgins' activism was deeply humanitarian. During the 1980 Mariel boatlift, he co-founded a task force that organized community sponsorships to rescue gay Cuban refugees trapped in US military camps, giving them housing and a direct path to safety.