high functioning depression is so scary because no one knows that you’re not okay. and even if you say something people don’t care because you don’t present as someone who’s falling off the deep end.
Seriously, just apologize when you know you messed up. You can’t be mad at someone for being mad at you when they have a legit reason to be upset. That’s weird behavior. People love to call themselves grown until it’s time to actually hold themselves accountable.