I encourage ANY FEMALE who doesn’t have kids to chase their dreams while they don’t have any. Enjoy your life, Travel the world, make mistakes, GO AFTER EVERYTHING YOU WANT IN LIFE BEFORE YOU HAVE A KID!
YOU DON'T REALIZE HOW MUCH SOMEONE HURT YOU UNTIL YOU FINALLY SIT IN SILENCE. no distractions, no texting, no running back... just you and your thoughts replaying everything you ignored. all the times you settled, stayed quiet, and accepted things that never sat right with your spirit. it hit different when you stop making excuses for people and start seeing it for what it really was. but that's where the healing start... when you choose yourself, even if it hurt to let them go.
incase you weren't raised correctly, i think it’s a mans job to set the tone in a relationship; whether people want to admit it or not, a woman feeds off his energy.. his consistency, his intentions, his presence. she takes what he gives and reflects it. when a man leads with clarity, love, and respect, it creates a space where a woman can feel safe, soft, and secure. vice versa, when he leads with confusion, mixed signals, and inconsistency, it forces her to operate in survival mode. she becomes guarded, unsure, and emotionally exhausted.
i used to take things personal… now i just take notes. every lie, every inconsistency, every weird vibe… it all be information. and once you start paying attention instead of making excuses, a lot of people disqualify themselves real quick.