I saw a post that said:
“I think being forced to be hyper independent as a child has caused me to be irrationally angry with any adult who needs their hand held through anything they do.”
And I felt that in my soul.
I hate work.
Like, I HATE work.
Not necessarily my job. I hate the whole fking system of waking up at the same time, driving to the same place, doing the same sh*t for five days straight just to earn two days of “freedom” that I’m too exhausted to actually enjoy.
Saturday is spent recovering.
Sunday is spent thinking about Monday.
Then Monday comes, and we do the whole damn thing AGAIN.
I’m not lazy. I work. I show up. I handle my sh*t.
I just refuse to believe we were put on this earth to spend most of our lives waiting for the weekend.
You HAVE to enjoy life after you get off work or you gone feel like you slaving away. Like PLEASE go have drinks on a random Wednesday. YES do that beach picnic too. That’s right, go practice pottery on a Tuesday evening. That go to work, go home, go to work, go home shit is 0/10
Sorry I do not reach out as often as I used to, I have been second guessing my career path,debating my life choices,and sleeping in any free time I get to escape the reality that is my life.
@IM_YARA4 When this happened to me, the worst thing wasn’t the fact that my birthday was forgotten … it was that my light died for treasuring other birthdays.
It killed one of the most joyful things in my life - to love and celebrate other people. It became hollow. I was lost.
My uncle who's 50+ would always say women over 25 are old but men at 50 are still in their prime. Today in the group chat, he said he needed help from me and my sisters with housework because he's struggling with lifting and bending so I had to remind him that he's still in his prime and he shouldn't be struggling with simple tasks. if it's already difficult for him, it'll be impossible for us 25+ old hags unless he's expecting my dad to come and do it. Now my family is blowing up my phone.
No, you cannot walk 10,000 steps daily, get 8 hours of sleep, cook every night, clean every day, take care of a family, make time for your own hobbies, and still be productive at work every day. This is not just propaganda, it is nonsense. Free yourself from it.
Interestingly, our skate parks here in Japan, pretty much the same, never faced those hurdles. We found a clever life-hack for the pandemic: following professional advice and thinking of others without coercive enforcement necessary. By choosing civic duty in a pandemic over 'main character energy,' we kept our death/infection rates way down and our parks open. It’s amazing what a population of adults can accomplish when they’re all pulling in the same direction, instead of “my rights!” crybabies.
Ok I’ve been this 18yo woman.
Let me break it down for you.
You’re 18 and you cry when someone says something mean about you in the school play.
But he’s an adult, so he tells you to toughen up and quit being emotional.
So you don’t feel safe processing your feelings like a normal teenager.
You’re 18, and you want to hang out in the park with the other teenagers and gossip.
But he’s an adult, so he tells you to grow up and stop being so immature.
So you stop seeing your friends, and your socialisation with your peers becomes harder.
You’re 18, and you’ve never had a big argument with a partner before, so you’re really confused and upset.
But he’s an adult, so he tells you you’re childish, crazy, and he’s disappointed.
So you feel ashamed of acting your age and wonder if there is something wrong with you.
You’re 18, and you’re really worried about your exam results coming out next week.
But he’s an adult, so he tells you that you should look into retaking classes if you are serious, or stop being so dramatic.
So you suffer in silence and learn your partner won’t understand if you need comfort.
Can age gaps work? Yes.
But honey, if you’re a teen and reading this: date another teen.
I wish people understood that when someone seems to overexplain, it's often because of how much they've been misunderstood. They're trying to give you information that they assume is hard to understand based on how they've been treated. This deserves compassion, not criticism