They shooting the messenger, but she ain’t wrong. Dating and sex were heavily demonized in a lot of our homes. We were told to stay away from boys and focus on school. The problem is that relationships are a skill set too and many Black women were prepared for careers but left to figure out dating, boundaries, and healthy partnership on our own.
You reduce crime by eliminating poverty. The reason so called nice neighborhoods have lower crime rates is because people’s basic needs are being met. It is not because of police, alarm systems, or neighborhood associations. Poverty creates crime.
"What radicalized you?"
Watching my female relatives plan, cook, shop, decorate, clean, and organize for the holidays while the men just show up and watch TV the whole time.
Quinta Brunson comments on what her past self would think of her now:
“I think 2014 me would be like, ‘exactly, period’. Because I was a very determined, knew where I was going. Girl, I do not like to do that thing where people pretend like I had no idea. Like, this could happen to me? no. I made every single move in my life so that this could happen to me. Didn't exactly know this, but I think that's the beauty of vision. You can feel, see something, you're working in accordance with something, and I'm a big believer in that”.
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“But women sexualise themselves”… no, men sexualise our existence.
There’s a fetish for the schoolgirl, the teacher, the secretary, the nurse, the nun, the “innocent” girl, the “experienced” woman, the boss, the assistant, the submissive, the dominant, the “barely legal,” the mother, the babysitter, the neighbour, the coworker every version of us gets turned into something sexual.
Covered? There’s a fetish. Modest? There’s a fetish. Uncovered? There’s a fetish. Even discomfort, even vulnerability is sexualised.
The same woman will be sexualised and then shamed for it in the next breath. That contradiction isn’t ours to carry.
Saying women sexualise themselves is just a way to dodge accountability because no matter what we do, you were already going to sexualise us anyway.