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[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

My heart and soul🥰🥺

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@tigergoodsmusic *sigh* I opened a can of worms

[moon meow 🌙 @Moonbae222]

We can be pro choice and also acknowledge that the “better off dead/never born” “your life is too miserable to be worth living” rhetoric is harmful to disabled people.

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@Watchmakermaker I’m assuming this statement aligns with your beliefs… if it is nothingness, what’s bad about that?

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

As someone who works in SpEd, I agree. It’s so much more than loving your kid and it’s a big gamble… if you can’t/don’t want to care for your adult child the rest of your life, don’t do it. And there’s nothing wrong w making that choice. It’s the best choice for you and them

[Nyrae @TemiXo_1]

If I were pregnant and informed that my fetus had Down syndrome I would absolutely abort. No amount of social media romanticizing of profound disability would change my mind. Contrary to popular opinion, you need more than love to care for a disabled child.

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@Watchmakermaker I guess that depends on your beliefs on what happens outside of this life

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@Rocket_Science4 I believe this outside of ability though. If I can’t care for a child, I’m not having a child. Abortion is a valid option

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@Watchmakermaker If a child isn’t cared for fully and properly, their quality of life declines significantly. Suffering occurs for everyone involved. If my parents weren’t able to care for me, I would want them to have the ability to make that decision.

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@JeMcMahon3 That’s a slur. That’s not accepted here

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@MotherofArachni recognizing you are unfit to care for a child and not having said child is one of the best choices one could make for themselves and that future child. Every child deserves to be born into families that can give them the care they deserve/need

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@RetrogradeAgain You can morally disagree. That’s totally fine, that’s the beauty of choice

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@Susan4Freedom recognizing you are unfit to care for a child and not having said child is one of the best choices one could make for themselves and that future child. Every child deserves to be born into families that can give them the care they deserve/need

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@zdz01_ I support recognizing if you can’t support a child and then not bringing said child into the world. Regardless of ability

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@sadieknowsitall I believe all children deserve to be born into families that have the bandwidth to give them the care they deserve/need.

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@Watchmakermaker Some people with disabilities do hold this belief (wishing they didn’t exist) but thats not my story to tell. Recognizing you are unfit to care for a child and not having said child is one of the best choices one could make for themselves and that future child.

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@Rocket_Science4 No, when people start saying “they don’t deserve to live bc of disability” thaaatsss when we’re creeping into that territory. But recognizing you are unfit to care for a child and not having said child is one of the best choices one could make for themselves and that future child

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@banditobobby @thestinkeye They definitely can! I have worked with my fair share. But the main point (outside of ability) is if someone isn’t able to give the full care a child needs, they shouldn’t have said child.

[cp 🪩💋🍸 @theBKbelle]

presumably healthy or not, do not move forward with the pr*gn*ncy if that is not what you want. that's what being pro choice is. i don't know if we should get wrapped up in the assumed health and ability of the fetus.

[𐙚 bambi @bbambied]

@fromkdwithluv yup!!! and its not even about being anti abortion or pro life. its about not talking about the disabled like they aren't meant to be alive

we should be advocating for MORE effort to be put into improving quality of life and accessibility for disabled people

[Hello it is me Kira :)🍉 @kirabira]

Crucial to recognize that the majority of the things that make having disabled family members so grueling are caused by the absence of systemic support in place to make it easier, in terms of respite care, financial aid that matches the actual high costs, or even basic respect.

[Candace🌚 @_CandaceB_]

@tigergoodsmusic But Yannow what,.. I even applaud that. There’s a huge stigma around it (as we see) and I think it’s good that people are seeing that that is indeed valid and okay

[🐅 Tiger Goods 🐅 @tigergoodsmusic]

as someone who works with disabled children, I applaud their self awareness.