No disrespect to anyone, but God please don’t send me another man who doesn’t know how to communicate, take accountability, or emotionally show up. I don’t want a man who’s still battling himself, avoiding healing, depressed, or emotionally unavailable and refusing help. I don’t want a man who can’t stand firm, speak for himself, or take control of his own life. I don’t want a man who belongs to someone else, is still tied to past situations, or lacks compassion, empathy, patience, and romance. I’m not built to carry a grown man through life while neglecting myself. Dealing with someone like that will drain you mentally, emotionally, and physically. I want a partner who’s already doing the work, not one I have to break myself trying to fix. Keep that kind of man far away from me.
Took myself out the mix, getting my life together, learning to keep things private. Just trying to accept some situations for what they are. Staying in my lane not bothering anyone, In hopes of no one bothering me. Literally just protecting my peace.
There’s a woman out there right now going into the new year after leaving a toxic man. No more confusion. No more emotional chaos. Just her, protecting her peace. Wherever you are, sis, you’re going to win.
I'm usually the person that tries to fix bonds and friendships but lately I’ve been letting people stand on how they feel. We ain't never gotta talk again. That's perfectly fine by me.
I don’t think God has ever said “No” to me. It’s always been “Not this thing,” “Not that person,” or “Not yet.” And I’m thankful for His pick and His timing, because when it did arrive, I was better equipped to handle it, and it was even better than I imagined.
I think every woman hits that season where she’s not angry anymore, just aware. You see people clearly. You move differently. You don’t explain.. you just shift. That’s maturity mixed with grace.