Pernah pergi interview dan bila da dapat offer tiba-tiba staff dekat current company tahu semua details? This is what i wrote to the HOD (the manager i should be reporting to).
One of the worst things you can do during problems in your marriage is
turn your children into allies against your spouse.
Your child is not your therapist.
They’re not your friend who needs to hear your side of the story.
And they definitely shouldn’t be put in a position where they feel like
they have to choose between their mum and dad.
I understand that sometimes you’re angry.
Sometimes your spouse has genuinely hurt you.
Sometimes you might even have completely valid reasons to be upset.
But your children don’t need to carry the emotional weight of your marriage.
Because every time you insult their father in front of them, roll your eyes when his name is mentioned or tell them things designed to make them dislike him...
You’re not just attacking your husband.
You’re changing the way your children see their father.
And eventually, that can affect the authority and stability within your own home.
The same principle applies to fathers speaking badly about their children's mother.
Whatever problems exist between husband and wife should be dealt with by the adults.
Not through the children.
There may be situations involving genuine harm or safety where children need appropriate support and honest conversations.
But that's very different from using them as ammunition during marital conflict.
Your marriage might be going through a difficult period.
You might be angry with each other.
You might even eventually decide you cannot remain together.
But wherever possible, allow your children to love and respect both of their parents
without feeling guilty for it.
Don’t make your children inherit a resentment that belonged to you.
Nabi S.A.W ajarkan doa ini adalah untuk selesaikan masalah.
1) Bebanan hutang
2) Lemah semangat, gelisah jiwa dan malas
3) Rasa sedih dan takut
4) Takde keyakinan diri
5) Selalu ditindas, dipermainkan dan diperlekehkan.
Doa ni mustajab tau, cuma ramai yang tak tahu cara amal.
To all perempuan yang ingin tenang, please take note 🤍
Jaga Subuhmu.
Kadang itu yang paling menjaga kita.
Jangan hanya minta senang, tapi mintalah juga tenang.
Karena banyak yang terlihat senang tapi tidak merasakan ketenangan.
Trust the process.
Saya sangat suka dengan cara Nabi ﷺ ajar kita untuk menjadi tenang dengan ketidakpastian.
Nabi ﷺ ajar kita supaya kita kawal apa yang kita mampu, apa yang tidak mampu kawal kita serah kepada Allah.
قَالَ رَجُلٌ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَعْقِلُهَا وَأَتَوَكَّلُ أَوْ
Ya Allah, I am uneasy. Ya Malik, I am lost and confused. Ya Ghaffar, forgive my sins. Ya Jabbar, help put back the heart you didn't break. Ya Karim, bless me with an abundance of health, wealth, love, and success. Ya Razzaq, provide for me through means I didn't know existed. Ya Fattah, open the doors that have shut on me. Ya Mujib, You answer all duas, 1, your servant is in dire need of Your help. Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqir.
TAHAJJUD!
The duas you make during TAHAJJUD do two things: either you lose what you're asking for, or you get what you're asking. If what you're asking for is good for you, you get it, but if it's bad for you, Allah takes it away and saves you! Trust Allah and have sabr!