Obedience is a sacred pledge.
An offering of self.
Not an abandoning of self.
Nor a selfish act.
A submissive who obeys without discernment is not powerful.
They are pliable.
A submissive who obeys with reverence,
discernment and clarity
iis conscious of the value he brings
and chooses who to offer this value to.
And you make that choice, because you trust in the leadership and influence and benevolence of the person you choose to obey.
The more obedient and devoted a submissive is,
the more they allow their Mistress
to fully embody her Dominance,
the more they amplify her Divine Feminine Power.
Because by obeying her, you showcase that her words and commands matter, that you trust them.
Which in turn makes her feel safe and encouraged to assert herself and command with confidence.
But there is a difference between seeking to find a Mıstress from a place of need and desperation..
And from a desire.
Which is rooted in the energy of giving,
not taking.
Here are two questions to ask yourself as a sub, seeking this type of dynamic:
Are your fantasies more about what she can do TO you (for you) or about what you can do for her?
Are you fantasizing about being used, or about being of use?
Real obedience is an act of devotional selflessness.
It is obsequious.
Performative obedience is where you become a slv to your own desires...
a sycophant who selects someone to play out what you want, for your own personal benefit alone.
[Exerpt from Sacred submission]