I don’t think your partner wants you to tell the world that they are not your spec. Some statements are just unnecessary, even if they aren’t malicious.
People underestimate how important sexual compatibility is until they’re in a relationship where one person is constantly begging and the other is constantly refusing.
“You have pimples on your face.”
“You're getting fatter.”
“You have a scar here”
“Your acne is bad”
Yes, I saw it in the mirror before leaving home. Now shut up, mind your business and leave me the fuck alone.
It's actually quite simple.
If I'm the one engaging in it, there's no such thing as too much PDA.
If I'm not, you two are doing too much and need to get a room.