The way you treat your mother as an adult, mirrors the way she treated you as a child.
People will never understand why you are the way you are with her until they understand what she was like with you first. The distance you keep now, the boundaries that look cold from the outside, the fact that you do not call, do not visit, do not perform the daughterly duties that everyone around you seems to manage without thinking twice. They see the current version. They do not see the origin of it.
PLEASE, i recommend getting comfortable with going to events, movies, concerts, coffee shops, museums by yourself so you don't miss out on life waiting on people
I need to know why Kenyan men are usually so angry when someone is spending on their babe๐น๐น๐นmmezoea kutesa warembo na tap water sindio?๐๐๐