Everything is permissible for me, but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible for me, but I will not be mastered by anything.
1 Corinthians 6:12
“yes, I am an assembly of electrons
and quarks interacting through quantum chromodynamics and the electroweak forces; yes, I am a mixture of a wide variety of chemical elements predominantly hydrogen, oxygen, and carbon; yes, I am a wonderful system of biochemical processes guided by genetic codes; yes, I am a vast and astoundingly complex organization of cooperating cells; yes, I am a mammal with hair and warm blood; yes I am a person, husband, lover, father; yes, I am a sinner saved by grace. I am all of these things and not one of them is less true than any other. Not one of these descriptions rules out the others, once we set scientism aside.” - Ian Hutchinson
In Michelangelo's The Creation of Adam, God's finger stretches fully outward, while Adam's finger is bent at the last joint. It illustrates that God is always present, but it is up to humans to take the initiative to connect with Him...
“I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish that you were cold or hot. So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I am going to vomit you out of my mouth.” - revelation 3:15-16
Desire itself—whether for sex, food, sleep, drink, self love, or money—isn’t the problem. Disordered desire is. Lust/casual sex outside of marriage, gluttony, laziness, drunkenness, selfishness, and greed.
The thing is, our desires get disordered when our hearts are oriented toward the wrong things like false goods that can’t actually satisfy us. And that’s partly why we end up failing when we try to do good through sheer willpower alone. Real reorientation of the heart isn’t something we can just make happen on our own. It starts with the realization that we need saving—that it’s only by the grace and help of God—received through things like disciplined intentional, worship, prayer, meditation, contemplation, and self reflection—that our loves start getting rightly ordered again. We’re supposed to want things, but in proper proportion and directed ultimately toward God. The right ordering of loves.
In many circles of the church, the faith has been hollowed out into something that no longer forms people in the way of Christ. And many atheists unknowingly live by the very moral framework Christianity laid down, treating human dignity and justice as real obligations without anything in their own worldview to ground them. what many people are practicing isn't really Christianity, and what many atheists are living by isn't really atheism.
This is only partly accurate, and your framing leans into cynicism and fatalism. The Bible does not teach that we should anticipate misery or suffering purely for its own sake. It acknowledges that trouble will come but also promises genuine joy, gifts, and comfort both now and in the afterlife—though it doesn't guarantee specific outcomes. God occasionally heals and provides; however, we are not entitled to these on demand. The core message of the Gospel is one of hope, not cynicism or despair. When suffering occurs, God will always bring good out of it.
He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. - Micah 7:8