Your upbringing may not have done the brilliant work of building your self-esteem, but I want you to build it yourself, brick by brick.
Elevate your dressing
Work on your body
Work on your communication
Invest in your knowledge
Show interest in technical conversations
Surround yourself (online and offline) with brilliant minds.
My husband has been my driver for the past 10 years of our marriage.
He drives me to work.
Drives me for my business.
Drives me for shopping.
Anywhere I want to go.
I don’t drive. He does.
He does it so well that if he comes home and doesn’t meet me in the house, he will call, locate me, come and pick me wherever I am, and bring me back home. Not from control, but from care. He simply doesn’t want his wife to stress herself.
Recently, I decided to register for my theory test so I can do my practical and start driving. Oga has already declared that he will not allow me to drive at night because he doesn’t joke with his wife.
For 10 years, he has been consistent.
There were days we both had night shifts. He would finish his own by 6am, drive straight to my workplace, park in front of my company, and sleep in his car until I closed by 8am. Then he would happily take me home, after collecting his kiss 😁
Yes, he gets a kiss when he drops me off.
And another one when he picks me up.
One day, a colleague mistook him for a homeless man because he was sleeping in his car outside our office. I laughed and told her, “That’s my husband.”
Over the years, many people have mistaken him for my driver. He would drive me somewhere, park patiently, and wait in his car until I was done. No complaints. Not once in 10 years.
Love doesn’t always shout.
Sometimes it waits quietly in a parked car at 6am. And no he is not a simp, he is just expressing love in his own way.
It is more profitable to be bad than to be good.
Bad people are flexible with morals. They negotiate what good people refuse to touch. They take shortcuts good people are too principled to consider. They understand timing, weaponize loyalty and move without guilt.
Good people, meanwhile, are busy being upright, waiting for fairness, trusting processes, and expecting decency to be rewarded.
But systems do not reward goodness. They reward strategy. They reward audacity. They reward those who understand power and survival. Being good, on its own, is not a strategy.
It is never too late, be a bad person. Today, today.
This is why you need to watch documentaries, read books, speak to people, and if you can afford it, travel!
Sometimes the biggest motivation you need (to do beneficial things) is confirmation of the possibility of the vague ideas in your head.
Working 8–9 hours a day and then going home to about 3-4 hours to yourself, which includes getting ready for the next day, is not living, to be very honest.
Elon Musk: “Anyone who wants to make more than they take has my respect”
Elon is asked for his advice for entrepreneurs, to which he responds:
“I’m a big fan of anyone who wants to build. Anyone who wants to make more than they take has my respect. That’s the main thing you should aim for: to make more than you take and be a net contributor to society.”
He compares it to the pursuit of happiness:
“If you want to create something valuable financially, you don’t pursue that. It’s best to pursue providing useful products and services. If you do that, money will come as a natural consequence of that rather than pursuing money directly. You can’t pursue happiness directly. You pursue things that lead to happiness — fulfilling work, study, friends, loved ones.”
Elon continues:
“It sounds very obvious, but generally if somebody is trying to make a company work, they should expect to grind super hard and accept that there’s a meaningful chance of failure. Then just focus on having the output be worth more than the input. Are you a value creator? That’s what really matters: making more than you take.”
Video source: @nikhilkamathcio (2025)
The best thing you can do for yourself, is to be a resourceful person.
Always make sure you have value to put on the table, and you won't be easily discarded.
Look at T-Bag (Bagwell) in Prison break.
They tried to get rid of him, but he always had something they wanted. Always.
That alone taught me something.
The moment you don't have a perceived value in the front of people around you.... You'd be disrespected, ignored and dispensable.
This is why it's very crucial to your family, your friends, your work colleagues, etc....
That you are someone whose presence brings value to people around.
Someone that if you are within that conversation, they know it's a plus.
It doesn't have to be money money money
Just work on being substantial and resourceful.
The quality of your relationships with people will increase.
And even if the people don't like you, they'd respect whatever you know and not cross boundaries.