@IdrisAOni1@Abidemi6 "Strive to become a woman who is respected not merely for her appearance, but for her faith, intelligence, wisdom, compassion, integrity, and contribution to humanity"
A woman's legacy is built in character and contributions.
Jazakumulahi khairan Imam
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you need to forgive your past and move on from it. this includes your childhood, an ex relationship, the person you were yesterday, it includes everyone that contributed to that upbringing. your parents, siblings, partner, distant relative, et cetera. you need to get rid of the not-so-good past and you shouldn't let it shape what you are, who you want to become.
a lot of people are still living from a place they claim they have left. you say you have moved on, but your habits and your fears all say otherwise. you hold on to who you used to be and what you went through, then convince yourself that change is not possible. that you are fixed. "this is just how you are" no, it's not true.
you may have had a difficult upbringing. you may have experienced things no one should have to go through. that reality does not disappear overnight. but it is not supposed to become your identity. it is not supposed to dictate your behaviour years later. the most you owe your past is acknowledgment of what has gone. you don't have to forget it, but don't wear it like a badge that justifies who you are today.
it's so easy to draw a straight line from people's switch up and questionable arc to a defining moment in their life. bad things happen. and sometimes they happen to good people in ways that are deeply unfair.
you were hurt by someone you trusted deeply. you shouldn't move through life expecting the worst from everyone. you were raised in an environment where being rebellious was normal, but you don't have to stay that way. you don't have to "not-conform" to normalcy today, because your childhood has always been like so. you were raised around neglect, and today you struggle with connection but it is not permanent unless you decide it is—
—yes. because at some point, it becomes a choice. a choice about what you carry forward.
I think a lot of people tend to confuse strong-will for stubbornness. And the truth is, being strong-willed is not about refusing to bend; it is about knowing why you stand. Being strong-willed means your conviction is anchored in clarity. When you are strong-willed, your beliefs are steady, and yet, they remain open to refinement.
A strong-willed person can pause, reassess, and even change direction without feeling diminished or less—because their strength is not in being right, but in being aligned with what is right. They are not threatened by truth. They're not even concerned about being right in the argument. A strong-willed person just wants to know they've chosen what is true and clear, and they are guided by it.
Stubbornness, on the other hand, however, is conviction that has been stripped of humility. It is the refusal to move because ego has taken root. Where the strong-willed person would seek understanding, the stubborn will strive to protect identity and not look dumb or a failure for a moment. And so, even when facts grow thin, even when evidence begins to contradict, they double down out of an unwillingness to be undone. And with this, arrogance seeps in.
To reject clear reasoning, to dismiss correction without sincere consideration, is to place oneself above truth. It is to say, in subtle ways, my stance matters more than what is accurate. And over time, this posture becomes dangerous, because it resists growth, and also consequently begins to reshape reality around pride rather than principle.
May Allah be sufficient for us.
what a privilege it is to be tired form the work you once begged so much for.
what a privilege it is to feel overwhelmed by the growth you used to dream about.
what a privilege it is to be challenged by the life you created on purpose.
what a privilege it is to outgrow things you used to settle for.
what a privilege it is to be tired for having done the things you once dreamt of doing.
what a privilege it is to be stretched by responsibilities that once lived only in your prayers.
what a privilege it is to lose sleep over possibilities that used to feel impossibly far away.
what a privilege it is to carry the weight of progress instead of the pain, fear and ache of stagnation.
what a privilege it is to be tested by answered prayers and not just by unanswered hopes.
what a privilege it is to stand in the middle of the life you once could only imagine from a distance.
what a privilege it is to be confused by decisions you once wished you were important enough to make.
what a privilege it is to be burdened and bothered by opportunities that once felt far beyond your reach.
what a privilege it is to have your hands full with the very things you once prayed would find you.
what a privilege it is to be exhausted by momentum instead of defeated by stillness.
what a privilege it is to be trusted with work that once seemed reserved for other people.
what a privilege it is to be asked of more because you became more.
what a privilege it is to have problems born from progress rather than the pain of remaining the same.
what a privilege it is to be refined by the very growth you once romanticized from afar.
what a privilege it is to be needed in rooms you once only hoped to enter.
what a privilege it is to wrestle with abundance after surviving seasons of lack.
what a privilege it is to become tired from living, fully, the life you once spoke about in whispers and utter silence.
what a privilege it is to live, because really, the truth is, sometimes the pressure you feel is proof that your life has now moved in the direction you always wanted it to. and if you pay enough attention, it makes things a little more easy to accept. it makes you a little more appreciative and grateful.
@YusufAsunmogejo The Hadith "Whoever leaves something for the sake of Allah, Allah will replace it with something better" came in handy.
Jazakallahu khayran
I was just revising my notes and I came across this profound concept Al-Imām Ibnul Qayyim wrote about that destroys the lazy fatalism people hide behind: you fight qadar (destiny) with qadar. Meaning, if something is decreed against you, you fight it with action that is also decreed (and is in your control). Sickness is destiny—so is medicine. Poverty is destiny—so is work. Failure is destiny—so is striving again. To sit back and say “if it's meant to happen, it'll happen” isn't the tawakkul we think it is. It is more negligence a lot of times than the tawakkul we try to label it.
The Prophet SAW said: “Strive for what benefits you, ask for Allah's help (in attaining it), and do not give up.” Allah has written your provision, yes, but He's also written the means by which it reaches you—and often, you are the means. Your effort is part of the decree.
And this is where people get it backwards. They think because the outcome is already known to Allah, the effort is pointless. But the effort was never separate from the outcome. It's woven into it. You were always going to try, and the result was always going to be what it is, but your striving is what activates the mercy, the growth, the reward embedded in the process. Even if it doesn't work out the way you hoped, it wasn't wasted. You became someone different through the attempt. You gained strength, resilience, knowledge and experience. And then you go again. That's the mentality. “and that each person will only have what they endeavoured towards, and that (the outcome of) their endeavours will be seen (in their record)”
Ya Allah, please protect me from making decisions that I will regret. Grant me clarity in my thoughts and guide me towards what is best for me. Keep me grounded in faith and help me trust Your plan, even when the path seems uncertain. آمِيْن
Did you know Ibadan ruled most of Yorubaland?
After the fall of the Oyo Empire, Ibadan filled the power vacuum. Its warriors dominated other towns and dictated Yoruba politics for decades. It was not just a city - it was an empire in itself. 👑
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In the 19th century, Ibadan stretched wider than any other city in West Africa. Travelers recorded how its landmass seemed endless, with neighborhoods spreading across hills and plains. Even today, it covers more than 3,000 km² — larger than many small countries.
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