Andrew Jombwe

@ajombwe

In pursuit of knowledge and understanding of truth, to attain profit of wisdom.

Uganda

Joined July 2009

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about 1 year ago

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about 1 year ago

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about 1 year ago

Nice Guys and the Church For years, I’ve watched men in the church try to gain respect by being nice and fail miserably. They serve, they sacrifice, they bend over backwards to please everyone around them, especially their wives. But it doesn’t lead to the life they expected. Instead of respect, they get resentment. Instead of admiration, they get indifference. They’re overlooked, not honored. Their efforts go unnoticed, their sacrifices unappreciated. These are the so-called "nice guys." And understanding what drives them is key to understanding why so many Christian men feel lost, ineffective, and ashamed. One of the most helpful frameworks I’ve come across for diagnosing this is Robert Glover’s No More Mr. Nice Guy. While it wasn’t written for a Christian audience, it’s clear-eyed about what’s going on in men’s lives. Glover describes what he calls “Nice Guy Syndrome,” a way of living where a man believes: “If I’m good, people will love me, meet my needs, and life will go smoothly.” It’s a covert contract—one that only exists in his mind, and one that no one else agreed to. This leads him to perform. He tries to be what he thinks others want. He hides anything unpleasant. He avoids conflict. He anticipates needs without being asked, expecting others to do the same for him. He believes that if he does everything right, life will finally work. He’ll get the girl. He’ll earn the respect. He’ll find peace. But none of that happens. And so, he becomes bitter. This kind of man is everywhere in the church. He often becomes a servant-leader in the worst possible sense: deferential, passive, afraid to take initiative. He thinks leadership means laying down, not laying hold. He gives and gives, but it’s not a gift—it’s a transaction. He hopes his sacrifice will be repaid. When it’s not, he doesn’t just feel exhausted. He feels betrayed. Nice guys don’t serve out of strength. They serve out of emptiness. They’re trying to earn what they believe they lack: approval, affection, significance. Glover traces this to what he calls “toxic shame”—not the conviction of sin, but the belief that being a man is itself wrong. That masculinity itself is inherently corrupt and dangerous. This belief didn’t come from nowhere. For decades now, we’ve been raising boys to despise their nature. We tell them to sit still, speak softly, be sensitive, suppress aggression, and emote more. In short, we train them to be more like girls. Gloria Steinem famously said we should raise our sons more like our daughters—and the culture obeyed. Nowhere is this more obvious than in public education, where for 13 formative years, boys are immersed in a system designed by women, staffed mostly by women, and optimized for girls. Masculine traits—risk-taking, roughhousing, competitiveness—are pathologized. Boys learn early that their instincts are bad, that manhood is a problem, that strength must be tamed. They carry that shame into adulthood. And many of them find their way into churches where male virtue is modeled after a distorted picture of Jesus—one that emphasizes meekness and mildness while stripping them of their true strength. In this version, meekness becomes passivity, and kindness becomes niceness. But the real Jesus was meek and mighty, kind and commanding—full of grace and truth, not neutered of initiative, boldness, or authority.” So they try harder. They try to be nice. They volunteer more. They “lead” by constantly deferring to their wives. They think sanctification requires the death of their masculinity, rather than the sanctification of it. But sacrifice is part of masculinity—you sacrifice for your mission, for your people, for your God. What you don’t sacrifice is masculinity itself. They think being a good Christian means being a doormat with a Bible verse. And it doesn’t work. The core problem is that their self-sacrifice is rooted in a falsehood. It's not motivated by strength or obedience to God—it’s motivated by insecurity and fear. It’s a performance designed to win approval, and that kind of sacrifice always backfires. It’s manipulative, even if the man doesn’t realize it. He’s not giving freely—he’s giving with strings attached. That’s not how Christ gave himself. Jesus laid down his life in obedience to the Father. He was not manipulated into it. He did not do it because the Church asked him. He did it because he was fulfilling a plan formed before the foundation of the world. He went to the cross not to please the Church, but to glorify the Father and redeem his Bride. He took action. He led. He bled. He rose again. And he did it all from a position of abundance, not need. His sacrifice wasn’t the fruit of insecurity. It was the fruit of mission. He had what we needed. He didn’t need what we had. He wasn’t trying to get something from us—he was giving everything to us. This is the essential difference between nice guys and godly men. Nice guys serve to be filled. Godly men serve because they are full. Nice guys are needy. Godly men are generous. Nice guys give because they’re desperate for approval. Godly men give because they know they’re already approved. The root issue here is one of control. Specifically, where a man believes control lies in his life. Psychologists call this a “locus of control.” A man with an internal locus believes his choices, his actions, his mindset—these determine the outcome. A man with an external locus believes it’s fate, luck, other people, systemic obstacles—things beyond his control. Nice guys almost always have an external locus. Their entire worldview is built around the idea that someone else is responsible for their happiness. That’s why they feel like victims. That’s why they’re constantly frustrated. That’s why they think if they just please everyone, things will finally go their way. But that day never comes. Scripture blows this mindset apart. Proverbs teaches that a man’s life reflects his heart. His outer world mirrors his inner world. His fruit comes from his roots. And if his house is a wreck, his finances are a mess, his health is in decline, and his relationships are shallow, the first place he needs to look is the mirror. Yes, there are always other factors. But the man is the main one. That’s the default assumption Scripture teaches. Not that everything is his fault—but that he is responsible. And if he takes responsibility, God will meet him there. This brings us to the concept of the male burden of performance. Simply put: men are judged by what they do. They are expected to build, to protect, to provide, to lead. That’s not a social construct. That’s Genesis. Adam was given a mission before he was given a wife. Dominion is in the male DNA. We are made to work. We are made to act. That’s why passivity is so soul-killing. That’s why unemployment crushes men. That’s why retirement often leads to depression. A man without a mission is like a sword left in its sheath—unused, dulled, and wasting away. This is why women are attracted to competence. To strength. To leadership. To performance. It’s not shallow. It’s built into them. Just as men are drawn to beauty and warmth and receptivity, women are drawn to a man who can get things done. Who has a direction. Who doesn’t need her to be his emotional crutch. When a man tries to win a woman’s heart through neediness—through niceness—he repels her. She may not even know why. But she’ll feel it. She’ll feel like she’s the one carrying the relationship. She’ll feel like she’s being led by a limp handshake. And that breeds contempt. So what’s the way forward? First, we must abandon the false gospel of nice guyism. You don’t need to earn love through performance. You don’t need to beg for scraps of approval. You already have the love of the Father in Christ. You are a son. You are an heir. You are accepted. Second, you must embrace your design. You were made to be a man. That’s not a flaw. That’s a feature. You were built for action. Built to lead. Built to build. Yes, the fall makes it harder. Yes, the ground resists you. Yes, the curse presses down. But your design is good. Third, you must live mission-first. Christ came to do the will of his Father, and so must you. That mission gives meaning to your work, your sacrifice, and your relationships. It frees you from people-pleasing because your eyes are fixed on the throne, not the crowd. Finally, you must believe that your labor in the Lord is not in vain. Not every effort will be rewarded in this life. But all of it matters. Even the mundane. Even the overlooked. Even the painful. “Whatever you do, do it heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” That is the abundance mindset. That is freedom. The way of Christ is not easy, but it is light. It is not safe, but it is good. And it leads to real joy, real peace, and real masculinity. So stop being nice. Start being good. And live like it’s good to be a man. P.S. This is a heavily rewritten series of posts that Bnonn and I wrote for It's Good to Be a Man in 2019.

thisisfoster's tweet photo. Nice Guys and the Church

For years, I’ve watched men in the church try to gain respect by being nice and fail miserably. They serve, they sacrifice, they bend over backwards to please everyone around them, especially their wives. But it doesn’t lead to the life they expected. Instead of respect, they get resentment. Instead of admiration, they get indifference. They’re overlooked, not honored. Their efforts go unnoticed, their sacrifices unappreciated. These are the so-called "nice guys." And understanding what drives them is key to understanding why so many Christian men feel lost, ineffective, and ashamed.

One of the most helpful frameworks I’ve come across for diagnosing this is Robert Glover’s No More Mr. Nice Guy. While it wasn’t written for a Christian audience, it’s clear-eyed about what’s going on in men’s lives. Glover describes what he calls “Nice Guy Syndrome,” a way of living where a man believes: “If I’m good, people will love me, meet my needs, and life will go smoothly.” It’s a covert contract—one that only exists in his mind, and one that no one else agreed to.

This leads him to perform. He tries to be what he thinks others want. He hides anything unpleasant. He avoids conflict. He anticipates needs without being asked, expecting others to do the same for him. He believes that if he does everything right, life will finally work. He’ll get the girl. He’ll earn the respect. He’ll find peace.

But none of that happens. And so, he becomes bitter.

This kind of man is everywhere in the church. He often becomes a servant-leader in the worst possible sense: deferential, passive, afraid to take initiative. He thinks leadership means laying down, not laying hold. He gives and gives, but it’s not a gift—it’s a transaction. He hopes his sacrifice will be repaid. When it’s not, he doesn’t just feel exhausted. He feels betrayed.

Nice guys don’t serve out of strength. They serve out of emptiness. They’re trying to earn what they believe they lack: approval, affection, significance. Glover traces this to what he calls “toxic shame”—not the conviction of sin, but the belief that being a man is itself wrong. That masculinity itself is inherently corrupt and dangerous.

This belief didn’t come from nowhere. For decades now, we’ve been raising boys to despise their nature. We tell them to sit still, speak softly, be sensitive, suppress aggression, and emote more. In short, we train them to be more like girls. Gloria Steinem famously said we should raise our sons more like our daughters—and the culture obeyed.

Nowhere is this more obvious than in public education, where for 13 formative years, boys are immersed in a system designed by women, staffed mostly by women, and optimized for girls. Masculine traits—risk-taking, roughhousing, competitiveness—are pathologized. Boys learn early that their instincts are bad, that manhood is a problem, that strength must be tamed. They carry that shame into adulthood. And many of them find their way into churches where male virtue is modeled after a distorted picture of Jesus—one that emphasizes meekness and mildness while stripping them of their true strength. In this version, meekness becomes passivity, and kindness becomes niceness. But the real Jesus was meek and mighty, kind and commanding—full of grace and truth, not neutered of initiative, boldness, or authority.”

So they try harder. They try to be nice. They volunteer more. They “lead” by constantly deferring to their wives. They think sanctification requires the death of their masculinity, rather than the sanctification of it. But sacrifice is part of masculinity—you sacrifice for your mission, for your people, for your God. What you don’t sacrifice is masculinity itself. They think being a good Christian means being a doormat with a Bible verse. And it doesn’t work.

The core problem is that their self-sacrifice is rooted in a falsehood. It's not motivated by strength or obedience to God—it’s motivated by insecurity and fear. It’s a performance designed to win approval, and that kind of sacrifice always backfires. It’s manipulative, even if the man doesn’t realize it. He’s not giving freely—he’s giving with strings attached.

That’s not how Christ gave himself.

Jesus laid down his life in obedience to the Father. He was not manipulated into it. He did not do it because the Church asked him. He did it because he was fulfilling a plan formed before the foundation of the world. He went to the cross not to please the Church, but to glorify the Father and redeem his Bride. He took action. He led. He bled. He rose again. And he did it all from a position of abundance, not need.

His sacrifice wasn’t the fruit of insecurity. It was the fruit of mission. He had what we needed. He didn’t need what we had. He wasn’t trying to get something from us—he was giving everything to us.

This is the essential difference between nice guys and godly men. Nice guys serve to be filled. Godly men serve because they are full. Nice guys are needy. Godly men are generous. Nice guys give because they’re desperate for approval. Godly men give because they know they’re already approved.

The root issue here is one of control. Specifically, where a man believes control lies in his life. Psychologists call this a “locus of control.” A man with an internal locus believes his choices, his actions, his mindset—these determine the outcome. A man with an external locus believes it’s fate, luck, other people, systemic obstacles—things beyond his control.

Nice guys almost always have an external locus. Their entire worldview is built around the idea that someone else is responsible for their happiness. That’s why they feel like victims. That’s why they’re constantly frustrated. That’s why they think if they just please everyone, things will finally go their way. But that day never comes.

Scripture blows this mindset apart. Proverbs teaches that a man’s life reflects his heart. His outer world mirrors his inner world. His fruit comes from his roots. And if his house is a wreck, his finances are a mess, his health is in decline, and his relationships are shallow, the first place he needs to look is the mirror.

Yes, there are always other factors. But the man is the main one. That’s the default assumption Scripture teaches. Not that everything is his fault—but that he is responsible. And if he takes responsibility, God will meet him there.

This brings us to the concept of the male burden of performance. Simply put: men are judged by what they do. They are expected to build, to protect, to provide, to lead. That’s not a social construct. That’s Genesis. Adam was given a mission before he was given a wife. Dominion is in the male DNA. We are made to work. We are made to act.

That’s why passivity is so soul-killing. That’s why unemployment crushes men. That’s why retirement often leads to depression. A man without a mission is like a sword left in its sheath—unused, dulled, and wasting away.

This is why women are attracted to competence. To strength. To leadership. To performance. It’s not shallow. It’s built into them. Just as men are drawn to beauty and warmth and receptivity, women are drawn to a man who can get things done. Who has a direction. Who doesn’t need her to be his emotional crutch.

When a man tries to win a woman’s heart through neediness—through niceness—he repels her. She may not even know why. But she’ll feel it. She’ll feel like she’s the one carrying the relationship. She’ll feel like she’s being led by a limp handshake. And that breeds contempt.

So what’s the way forward?

First, we must abandon the false gospel of nice guyism. You don’t need to earn love through performance. You don’t need to beg for scraps of approval. You already have the love of the Father in Christ. You are a son. You are an heir. You are accepted.

Second, you must embrace your design. You were made to be a man. That’s not a flaw. That’s a feature. You were built for action. Built to lead. Built to build. Yes, the fall makes it harder. Yes, the ground resists you. Yes, the curse presses down. But your design is good.

Third, you must live mission-first. Christ came to do the will of his Father, and so must you. That mission gives meaning to your work, your sacrifice, and your relationships. It frees you from people-pleasing because your eyes are fixed on the throne, not the crowd.

Finally, you must believe that your labor in the Lord is not in vain. Not every effort will be rewarded in this life. But all of it matters. Even the mundane. Even the overlooked. Even the painful. “Whatever you do, do it heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” That is the abundance mindset. That is freedom.

The way of Christ is not easy, but it is light. It is not safe, but it is good. And it leads to real joy, real peace, and real masculinity. So stop being nice. Start being good. And live like it’s good to be a man.

P.S. This is a heavily rewritten series of posts that Bnonn and I wrote for It's Good to Be a Man in 2019.

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Dr. Bryan Ardis: Sugar "literally shuts off your immune system and makes you more susceptible to all viruses, all infections". "When you swallow sugar... it goes inside your bone marrow and it suppresses—within 45 minutes—your body's ability to produce white blood cells that fight infections like bacteria, yeast, viruses, funguses, and parasites." "So if you're trying to fight an infection... and I find out you're eating doughnuts and pop tarts and cereal in the morning, you don't care about your health."

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Vivek Ramaswamy

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The reason top tech companies often hire foreign-born & first-generation engineers over “native” Americans isn’t because of an innate American IQ deficit (a lazy & wrong explanation). A key part of it comes down to the c-word: culture. Tough questions demand tough answers & if we’re really serious about fixing the problem, we have to confront the TRUTH: Our American culture has venerated mediocrity over excellence for way too long (at least since the 90s and likely longer). That doesn’t start in college, it starts YOUNG. A culture that celebrates the prom queen over the math olympiad champ, or the jock over the valedictorian, will not produce the best engineers. A culture that venerates Cory from “Boy Meets World,” or Zach & Slater over Screech in “Saved by the Bell,” or ‘Stefan’ over Steve Urkel in “Family Matters,” will not produce the best engineers. (Fact: I know *multiple* sets of immigrant parents in the 90s who actively limited how much their kids could watch those TV shows precisely because they promoted mediocrity…and their kids went on to become wildly successful STEM graduates). More movies like Whiplash, fewer reruns of “Friends.” More math tutoring, fewer sleepovers. More weekend science competitions, fewer Saturday morning cartoons. More books, less TV. More creating, less “chillin.” More extracurriculars, less “hanging out at the mall.” Most normal American parents look skeptically at “those kinds of parents.” More normal American kids view such “those kinds of kids” with scorn. If you grow up aspiring to normalcy, normalcy is what you will achieve. Now close your eyes & visualize which families you knew in the 90s (or even now) who raise their kids according to one model versus the other. Be brutally honest. “Normalcy” doesn’t cut it in a hyper-competitive global market for technical talent. And if we pretend like it does, we’ll have our asses handed to us by China. This can be our Sputnik moment. We’ve awaken from slumber before & we can do it again. Trump’s election hopefully marks the beginning of a new golden era in America, but only if our culture fully wakes up. A culture that once again prioritizes achievement over normalcy; excellence over mediocrity; nerdiness over conformity; hard work over laziness. That’s the work we have cut out for us, rather than wallowing in victimhood & just wishing (or legislating) alternative hiring practices into existence. I’m confident we can do it. 🇺🇸 🇺🇸

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Members of 11 village saving groups at Masese and Wairaka landing sites in Jinja district have been trained to utilise digital tools to promote the saving cultures at the grassroots level. DETAILS | #VisionUpdates 👇👇https://t.co/3toNW57P6r

newvisionwire's tweet photo. Members of 11 village saving groups at Masese and Wairaka landing sites in Jinja district have been trained to utilise digital tools to promote the saving cultures at the grassroots level.

DETAILS | #VisionUpdates 👇👇https://t.co/3toNW57P6r https://t.co/BnO5VXM3Q6

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over 1 year ago

In Botswana, citizens get free healthcare, free education, free land if they apply and free legal representation. Students receive monthly allowances of $154 each monthly.

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At @CinnamonClubs, we harness the power of #tech to #transform lives. Our latest initiative drives financial inclusion in #unserved and #underserved communities, ensuring everyone has the chance to thrive. #TechForImpact #financialInclusion @UCC_Official #UCUSAF @DoreenRuta

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over 1 year ago

It's HipHop at #YimusaLevo. #financialliteracy @DicksonMushabe @UCC_Official @DoreenRuta @ajombwe

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Cinnamon CEO, @DoreenRuta joins members of Mukene Womens Association in #Larakaraka dance at the #YimusaLevo campaign to raise #financialliteracy awareness. @CinnamonClubs is using #technology to promote #financialinclusion. @UCC_Official @DicksonMushabe @CharityByarugab

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A member of a fisheries #savings group proudly shows off his props after his group's performance at the #YimusaLevo competitions to raise awareness in #financialliteracy. #lastmile #impact #financialinclusion @DicksonMushabe @UCC_Official @DoreenRuta @ajombwe

CinnamonClubs's tweet photo. A member of a fisheries #savings group proudly shows off his props after his group's performance at the #YimusaLevo competitions to raise awareness in #financialliteracy.
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over 1 year ago

#YimusaLevo teams setting up at Masese Landing site in Jinja for #Financialinclusion With support from @UCC_Official , we are taking #technology & #financial to the fishing communities along Lake Victoria #FinancialLiteracy #UCUSAF

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Maggie Harrison Dupré @mags_h11

almost 2 years ago

If you're using ChatGPT to browse the web, be careful what you click! In response to multiple search queries, ChatGPT **cited** an AI-powered "news" site riddled with scammy pop-ups impersonating real companies. For @futurism https://t.co/RDfMroxBiy

Andrew Jombwe @ajombwe

over 2 years ago

An amazing read! And an inspiration to be deliberately audacious in all our contributions towards the change we desire for our generation. Thanks @rajshah

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over 2 years ago

It's here! My book, "Big Bets: How Large-Scale Change Really Happens" is out in stores everywhere. I'm ecstatic to release this into the world and I hope you all feel inspired to make big bets to change the world. https://t.co/o4GZp9OgaK

rajshah's tweet photo. It's here! My book, "Big Bets: How Large-Scale Change Really Happens" is out in stores everywhere. I'm ecstatic to release this into the world and I hope you all feel inspired to make big bets to change the world. https://t.co/o4GZp9OgaK https://t.co/3jGgpldE0F

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Mohamad Safa

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over 3 years ago

The 7 year old girl who kept her hand on her little brother's head to protect him while they were under the rubble for 17 hours has made it safely. I see no one sharing. If she were dead, everyone would share! Share positivity...