Parental Alienation Abuse

Distilled takes on Parental Alienation Child Abuse. I'm an alienated parent raising awareness and trying to help others (no formal education on this topic).

[The Anti-Alienation Project @antialienationp]

Did you know I’ve conducted dozens of interviews of other child survivors of parental alienation on my YouTube channel? I have a whole playlist dedicated to sharing their stories.

Check it out! https://t.co/Fsmf2BUKmM

P.S. If you’ve been through this child psychological abuse and would like to share your story in an interview or anonymously, please email me at [email protected]! :)

[PAPA | People Against Parental Alienation ♻️ @papaorg]

Tragic news this morning.

We’ve just been informed that another parent has taken their own life as a direct result of false allegations and Parental Alienation.

A member of ours had not seen their child in over 3 years, he was falsely accused of being abusive to both the children and their mother.

These were claims he refuted and they were also dismissed by Social Services, CAFCASS, the Police and every Judge that heard the case.

There was no evidence against him at all.

It was repeatedly found that the mother was lying as a tactic to alienate him from his children.

Yet another case where judges have noted the alienating parent was lying but still refused to punish the them and instead preferred to stick with the “status quo” - which was a good, loving parent being kept away from his children.

Punishing the mother for making false allegations was deemed “not in the child’s best interest” but the same judges felt it was okay to drive a desperate father to take their own life and force a child to live with their abuser.

He gave up on the family court but never gave up on his children until he was chased for child support arrears he said he didn’t owe and couldn’t afford.

He’d already nearly made himself bankrupt fighting through family court.

He was barely getting by financially never mind the emotional toll of being separated from the children who meant the world to him.

Michael had remortgaged his home to cover his legal fees, nearly bankrupted himself and was still being chased for more

Micheal was only 39 years old, a good man who was let down by the system, he decided to take his own life as he felt there was no way he’d be able to see his children again or escape his “debts”.

This is why we need urgent changes. Urgent reform of the family court system. This abuse cannot continue.

RIP Michael.💔♻️

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

@stuart268 don’t forget that narcissism is usually generational (through the abuse, not the genes)

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

Here’s how it makes sense: the world is mostly run by sociopaths, and to them there are 2 key benefits to PA: a greater % of population that makes decisions based on fear, and a greater pool of people for recruitment into power.

I know I know, alienated parents (myself included) do not want to consider such things, but let’s face it: our appeasement to and naïveté of abusive people is precisely how we got into this mess.

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

@papaorg 💯 The pathogenic role-reversal where the child is forced to be the emotional caretaker for their parent, instead of the other way around, is *severely* damaging to the child’s development. Always present with PA.

*protection* is the first step to recovery, always!

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

guessing a fair % of alienated parents can relate… when there’s too much in our lives with no clear answers, our charter is spending more time in a grateful now, setting aside the scripts.

water and grow the parent you would want to return to, in your child’s shoes.

yeah, I find it hard too.

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

@NarcissistBox 💯 true, but a part of you also dies in the process, at least with PA... prayers to all those in the battle, and the wisdom to know where to fight, and where to let go 🙏

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

When my limbs aren’t flailing under the latest cresting wave, I’m busy working on this list 🤣🤣

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

While survivors often carry trauma responses, they also develop strengths that many people don’t see at first glance. Here are some positive traits common in survivors of narcissistic abuse: 💪

*DEEP EMPATHY – heightened ability to understand and feel what others are going through.
*RESILIENCE – an inner toughness that comes from surviving prolonged adversity.
*STRONG INTUITION– finely tuned radar for dishonesty, manipulation, and hidden agendas.
*HIGH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE – awareness of their own emotions and others’, even if they struggle with trusting it at first.
*COMPASSION – often go out of their way to comfort and support others.
*CREATIVITY – many survivors channel their pain into art, writing, music, or problem-solving.
*AUTHENTICITY – once they break free, they often reject fake personas and embrace their real selves.
*COURAGE – leaving or standing up to a narcissist requires enormous bravery.
*DETERMINATION – they often dive deep into self-growth, psychology, and recovery.
*PROTECTIVE OF OTHERS – especially vulnerable people, children, or anyone being mistreated.
*ABILITY TO SEE THROUGH MASKS– hard to fool them once they’ve recognized manipulative tactics.
*INNER STRENGTH– often underestimated, but survivors learn they can endure and rise again.

So while the scars are real, survivors often emerge with a mix of wisdom, empathy, and inner power that others can’t fake. 🙏���💛💪

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

💯 they will control you using your own children… and if you think your bond with your kids is too strong for this, you need to learn more now about how severe and *utterly surprising* alienation abuse can be.

Do *not* ignore the danger posed by your children just “not wanting to share” the other half of their life. And if your kids are very well behaved “people pleasers”, it’s another warning sign of a pathogenic role-reversal taking place with your ex. Overnight, your entire world can crashing down!

..if/when the children finally do figure out what was done to them, they are completely discarded by the parent they once fiercely defended and lied for in court.

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

Tips for Responding to an Alienating Ex:

* Follow any verbal agreement with a written synopsis quickly (or it didn't happen).
* Keep it short, write for the court, and make it your exhibit.
* Don't write when you are triggered. Or write but don't send! Re-write and send it later.
* Don't respond to the laundry list of allegations, just calmly dismiss and quickly reclaim the agenda with the high road. "You know we never agreed to xyz, and you have other entirely false allegations here. Moving forward, we can easily avoid disagreement in this area by..."
* Cite the values of the court, even if completely absurd given your ex's history. "I'm sure we agree it is best not to put our son in the middle of this, and come to an understanding together."
* Close with a brief ask to affirm (the court's values): "Does that sound reasonable to you?"

Will it actually work with your ex? No, not likely. And doing this will feel incredibly artificial.. but in a PA situation, your goal is to succinctly stay on the high road and compile an exhibit of these exchanges. Regarding length, keep in mind Judges frequently just skim exhibits.

Other tips welcome!

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

@Ryan_Daigler at that level (which is common) they are also a sociopath.

now consider how much propaganda is behind the victimhood culture taking over the West.

how often is perjury enforced in family court? (hardly ever)

not an accident…

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

(btw, I want to briefly acknowledge that Dr. Childress has stirred up a lot of controversy over how he interacts with other experts and influencers devoted to helping families with PA. This is very unfortunate… I don’t follow the details of that so I won’t offer opinions on that right now.

My take is his book offers valuable root-cause insights into the pathologies, but when it comes to treatment strategies.. especially those you might actually be allowed to use by the typical court, I suggest looking elsewhere)

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

Parental Alienation: Child psychological abuse that results in a child’s intensive and excessive rejection of one parent (the target parent/TP), with an over-idealization of the alienating parent (AP).

Why is it Child Abuse? Parental Alienation is an attachment disorder created by severely pathogenic practices:

* Role Reversal and Emotional Enmeshment: the child is coaxed and coerced over time into becoming the emotional caretaker of the AP. This inversion of the parent-child hierarchy is extremely damaging to a child's emotional development.

* Active suppression of the Child's attachment bond to the target parent: This happens in a variety of destructive ways that in PA, go way beyond just "badmouthing".

The alienating parent is able to do this to their own children because he/she developed a Narcissistic or Borderline disorder as a result of abuse they suffered as a child (whether it was formally diagnosed or not, if everything lines up and PA is happening, this is present). Typically, the divorce severely activates that trauma and they unconsciously divert grief into anger (Narcissists/Borderline are completely unable to handle grief in a normal way). This process often results in 'decompensation' into truly delusional beliefs, even when there was no evidence of delusions prior to the divorce.

The AP's mind overlays their childhood onto their current child(ren), overlays their abuser onto the target parent, and they adopt the coveted role of the 'protector' they never had. This reenactment process is the only way they know to assuage their overwhelming fear of inadequacy (Narcissists), or abandonment (Borderline) that was strongly activated by the divorce.

Some people believe the truly malevolent behavior that results is entirely subconscious via this reenactment. I personally believe it starts there but grows to include conscious malevolence where PA is the result. Ultimately, whether it does or doesn't isn't relevant to the question of whether it is child abuse, and what to do about it.

I have found the most insightful, objective analysis of the psychology from Craig Childress (PsyD).

Introductory lecture:
https://t.co/BVm49gdIbH

Book: An Attachment-Based Model of Parental Alienation: Foundations
https://t.co/pcTsAEXTzH

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

@antialienationp I can’t stomach all the language on his other videos, but I do think he demonstrates real alienation here and this is a great spotlight on this topic, with how vulnerable he gets.

Your insights and takes are so spot-on… really well done!

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

@antialienationp There is evil around this topic, and I don’t believe it’s all grassroots, either with regard to the hateful influencers. You are making a huge impact and as an alienated dad, I am so so grateful.

Prayers for your courage, safety, and healing 🙏

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

@Ryan_Daigler Except when their supply is tied to their own child.. now they have a hostage, and Stockholm Syndrome is the result.

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

@mindfulmaven_ 💯 Forgiven, but not forgotten.

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

it’s a very puzzling vortex of destruction they surround themselves with, so strong it often ends up swallowing them whole.. especially puzzling considering many are quite intelligent.

I know the psychology and child abuse behind it, but often wonder if spiritual issues aren’t involved where it fully manifests 🤔

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

If you’re a victim and in some way must be tied to that person, as much as you hate having to network wide with current or potential flying monkeys (the people Narcs use to gain control over you), you need to do it!

If you haven’t, and the Narc makes a false allegation not easily disproved, it will be too late. Get busy with your inoculation work now!

[Parental Alienation Abuse @AlienationHope]

@Ryan_Daigler The projection of narcissists is so strong, you can often predict their next offense from their current accusations. So when you hear a lie, prepare!