There are exceptions to this if you're extremely hot and everyone wants you, but if you're just normal looking you better not even think about it. You're either hyper-sexualized, or a monster, and a lot of us drew the monster card.
Expanding on this, our rape laws work on the opposite principle from consent.
Consent assumes that the answer is 'no' until it's a yes.
Because of the "innocent until proven guilty" model, rape laws assume that the answer was yes until she proves that she said no.
being high functioning depressed sometimes makes you forget what help is too. you could be at your lowest about to die and go "yeah I'll ride this one out"