Islam obligates a husband to provide for his wife and children according to his means. That responsibility is indeed his. However, Islam does not teach entitlement, selfishness, or a lack of cooperation within marriage.
If a wife chooses to contribute towards school fees, feeding, accommodation, or other family needs, that is an act of charity, kindness, and partnership for which she is rewarded by Allah. The Mothers of the Believers and many righteous Muslim women throughout history supported their families financially when needed.
Saying, "My money is my money, but his money is for all of us," may be legally correct in a narrow fiqh sense, but marriage is built on more than legal rights. It is built on mercy, sacrifice, love, and mutual support.
A successful Muslim home is not one where spouses constantly calculate what they can withhold from each other. It is one where each spouse asks: "How can I help lighten the burden of the other?"
Rights are important, but excellence (iḥsān) is even greater. The strongest marriages are sustained not merely by what is obligatory, but by what is willingly given for the sake of Allah.
Terfikir, what if time awal2 kahwin laki you boleh tanggung and provide lavish lifestyle, tapi suddenly dia ditimpa kesusahan . Are you gonna say this to him as well?
Susah senang tu boleh bawak banyak maksud sebenarnya. Hidup ni macam roda, harini hidup macam raja, esok maybe terduduk macam pengemis, we never gonna know if our partner sanggup tak harungi semua tu sama-sama or just nak stay waktu senang je
Tak semua orang yg tanya “sanggup ke hidup susah senang” tu nak ambil kesempatan or sengaja nk susahkan perempuan🤷🏾
Do modern women think bills stop just because they have children? Do they ever think outside the box and consider that the man also needs enough sleep because he still has to wake up and go to work?
What is the man supposed to do?..wake up and breastfeed the baby?
Why is there such an obsession with criticizing men for not going through the exact same experience as mothers?
It sometimes feels like women just can’t stand seeing a man sleep, no matter how tired he is. Isn’t that crazy?
The idea that marriage should be an equal partnership sounds good in theory, but in practice, its unrealistic.
Men are expected to do a lot:
plan dates, give gifts, initiate intimacy, be romantic, , provide emotional support, control his anger, listen, reassure, resolve conflicts, and even fix issues like a dead bedroom.
On top of that, there are practical responsibilities:
providing financial stability, handling plumbing or electrical problems, dealing with pests, and fixing things around the home.
At the same time, they’re expected to be patient and understanding of her
mental health struggles, emotional burdens, unhappiness, postpartum challenges, personal issues, cravings, and childcare demands.
When you step back and look at it, does this really feel like a balanced partnership or more like the ma. carrying the weight that used to be shared by a whole “village”?
And if you miss even one of those expectations, you risk being labeled as heartless, emotionless, or as not caring about your woman. Keep listening to women. They see you as their superior in theory.
If your budget is limited, after care service lepas bersalin lebih crucial. Hospital gov ada pakar yg bagus. Anything emergency tak tambah kos sangat.
Cons is suami dapat masuk kat labor room je and for 1-2 days tu urus sendiri huhu.
But if you have more budget, boleh je nak bersalin swasta AND pergi confinement centre/hire confinement lady.
Apapun, bincanglah suami isteri. Jangan ikut orang. Provider T20, M40, B40, tetaplah provider juga ya para isteri.
unironically why do some of you get into relationships if this is the way you're going to speak to your partner when they're open about their feelings?
i'm so serious
You can call it harmless, but publicly admiring other men while in a relationship still reveals where your psychic energy is available. Deep love has a natural exclusivity to it.
If your heart is genuinely anchored, there should be a natural containment to where your romantic energy goes. Otherwise it begins to suggest that your interior is not as devoted as it claims to be.