Ok ladies, listen up. Especially those of you in the back:
Dump that asshole you keep worrying about
He isn't going to change
He is going to treat you just like he always has.
You deserve more. Much more.
It'll hurt but in given time, you'll be a better woman.
Love you instead
structure matters on both sides of d/s.
i canโt expect discipline and accountability from a submissive while giving myself permission to be inconsistent.
lately, iโve been more intentional about how i spend my time and what i expect from myself.
iโm maintaining a 3.8 gpa, but iโm most proud of the A in my ASL course and getting a 100 on my final. i started that class irritated as hell because i was a beginner and there were no spoken wordsโjust sign. but i stuck with it, and now itโs the grade iโm proudest of.
this weekend iโm going to a D/s workshop because there are things i want to sharpen and a few ideas i want to reconsider. iโm reading three + hours a day now, with 30 mins when i wake up and another 30 before bed, and still getting my 18k steps in.
the more consistent i am with myself, the more i think about what i ask of a submissive.
i like creating structure and being clear about what i expect. the caregiver in me also cares about how that structure feels for them. i donโt want rules just because i can make them. there should be a reason behind what i ask of someone.
and i canโt reproach a submissive for falling short of something iโm not willing to hold myself to.
i donโt want to just set the standard. i want to live it.
are u actually a sub or were you just forced to act like an adult from such a young age that you just wanna have someone be dominant and 'big' because ur tired of it
I came across a video of a little saying that losing her caregiver was harder than losing the romantic relationship with her ex. I understand why.
As a Dom, I think I can become more emotionally attached to a little than I would to someone Iโm simply in a D/s dynamic with. Not because one relationship is more meaningful than the other, but because caregiving requires a different kind of intimacy.
You learn a little differently.
Their moods, needs, comfort cues, what makes them feel safe, what helps them regulate, and what makes them light up.
That kind of vulnerability creates attachment. And when youโre growing together through that level of care, the relationship can become emotionally significant in ways that go beyond the
D/s dynamic itself.
So I completely understand why some littles choose to keep their caregiver and romantic relationships separate after experiencing that kind of loss.
Sometimes you're not just grieving the person. You're grieving the person who knew how to care for all of you.