If 30% of men who claim they’d kill a rapist would simply tell their friends that misogyny is wrong in every context, nonviolently, and in real time, we would finally begin to see meaningful change. There’s a reason they don’t, and it’s not because they killed anyone. Probably.
Your value is not determined by your relationships with men, your attractiveness in their estimation, your usefulness to them, or the comfort you bring them. Your value is inherent. You are a human being, not a supporting actress. Lead.