@DoctorPerin I’m paraphrasing here, but I once read a psychologist’s take that cigarettes are one of the most effective ways of managing stress, and if they didn’t kill you, doctors would prescribe them…😉
You did such a great job this past week! Be proud of yourself. Notice how powerful you are, never doubt your abilities! Take some time to recharge. You are doing just fine!
Emotionally rigid: Keep your head down, one eye on the prize, the other on the bottom line, no matter the cost.
Emotionally agile: Realize your circumstances have evolved, and make a values-aligned choice to change course.
These questions can help you reevaluate your goals.
We live in a world where so much of the messaging we hear is about being better and doing more. What if we choose something different?
What if we decide that who we are, right now, in this moment, is enough?
Courage: “This is so hard, but I choose to trust in my ability to be resilient.”
Curiosity: “Is there anything I can learn from this situation?”
Self-compassion: “I don’t feel capable right now, but I know that I am smart, resourceful, and have the capacity to rebuild.”
A message for every scapegoat of narcissistic parents and every survivor of narcissistic abuse 💛
-You've endured challenges that many cannot even imagine, and yet you stand here today with incredible strength and resilience. Your past does not define you; your determination and courage do. Each step you take toward healing and growth is a testament to your inner power. Believe in your worth and know that you have the ability to create a future filled with joy, purpose, and fulfillment. You are not alone, and your journey inspires others to find their own strength. Keep moving forward, because you deserve every happiness and success life has to offer. 🙏🏼
15% of men in the US report having zero close friends—a stark contrast to 3% in 1990.
In this week’s episode of Everything Life Coaching, John Kim (@theangrytherapist) and Noelle Cordeaux had a candid conversation about this emerging coaching trend – men's emotional wellness.
@CatherineJHogan@mermaidwrites My favourite. Devastating. I have the 100 year anniversary edition and the audio book. I only listen to it once. I cried throughout most of it .🥺❤️🐇
Ikigai (生き甲斐) is a Japanese concept referring to something that gives a person a sense of purpose, a reason for living.
Japanese have basically a word for any concept that in other languages require lots of words (except German, obviously).
The term compounds two Japanese words: iki [生き, meaning 'life; alive'] and kai (甲斐, meaning '(an) effect; (a) result; (a) fruit; (a) worth; (a) use; (a) benefit].
Interestingly, Ikigai has been the subject of many interdisciplnary studies.
According to a study by Michiko Kumano, feeling ikigai usually means the feeling of accomplishment and fulfillment that follows when people pursue their passions.
National Geographic reporter Dan Buettner suggested ikigai may be one of the reasons for the longevity of the people of Okinawa.
Studies have even shown that people who do not feel ikigai are more likely to experience cardiovascular diseases.
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A lot of times a trauma survivor has a difficult time with self-love and self-care. Not because they don’t want to love and care for themselves, but because they have a large capacity to love and care well for others and that’s where they’ve gotten hurt quite often.