Asexual ACES

She/her
Ace Activist since 2014
can explain it to you, but I can't comprehend it for you.”

― Edward I. Koch

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

Being alloromantic & allosexual means feeling romantic & sexual attraction to 1 or more genders.

Allo is not the same as polyamory. Polyamory is a choice. Being allo isn't.

Allos can still abstain from dating/sex (attraction ≠ action).

Allos can still love family & friends.

[PinkNews @PinkNews]

Honestly one of the best clapbacks I have ever seen:

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

When aces use "cishet ace", they mean the PB&A sandwich that consists of:

- 2 slices of cis bread

- some heteroromantic peanut butter

- some ace paste (flavorless, odorless, colorless, textureless, invisible, inaudible) instead of heterosexual jelly

It's a different sandwich.

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

Analogy

The "cishet" ace PB&J sandwich

It consists of:

- 2 slices of cis bread

- some heteroromantic peanut butter

- no heterosexual jelly

Some people insist that for all intents & purposes, it's a PB&J sandwich.

No same-gender attraction cheese/trans bread? PB&J sandwich!

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

Being similar to or having 2 out of 3 things in common with PB&J sandwiches ≠ being a PB&J sandwich.

If you added heterosexual jelly to grilled cheese, it wouldn't be basically a PB&J sandwich, despite having 2 out of 3 things in common.

You're either a PB&J sandwich or not.

[Aces NRW antifaschistisch asexuell @Aces_NRW]

Die "Du wirst schon die*r Eine*n für Dich finden!"-Narrative im Aromantik- und Asexualität-Diskurs hat im Kern einen Allo Superiority Complex, welcher Aspecs "heilen" und vor sich sich selbst schützen will, indem ein*e allo Partner*in das Gegenüber von aspec Identität "befreit"🧵

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

@AsexualGoddess The common term is "allo cishet".

[Cllr Tina Bhartwas 🎗 @TinaBhartwas]

Excited to see this project I've been pushing for and working on get off the ground! I'm so pleased that @lgbtcooperators is taking this step to reach out to, work with and support asexual people in the @CoopParty and movement. Get in touch to find out more!💜

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

@AphobeHottakes Love is love!

I think lesbian, gay & bi are normal. I totally respect them (as long as they're trans &/or ace).

1. Being gay means you're a man. Men aren't oppressed.

2. Lesbian is a popular porn category. So obviously no one hates on them.

3. Bi Felica. Need I say more?

/s

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

@aragon1500 @ButterscotchwM @alexatheok Yes & no.

Asexuality is/has a spectrum. That spectrum indicates sexual attraction: None, some, rare, weak, conditional, etc.

Other things aren't part of that spectrum, because they can be applied to others.

Blue squares exist, but 'blue' isn't part of the 'rectangle spectrum'.

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

Random person: "How can asexuals have/like sex? I thought the point of being asexual was not having/liking sex?"

Common response: "Asexuality is a spectrum. [...]"

No.

Asexuality being a spectrum is irrelevant in this context.

It's an orientation, not what we (don't) do/like.

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

"Back in my day, people weren't offended by everything. We could take a joke."

Elgoog detected the following language: Bullshit

Translation:

"We used to bully people & get away with it. Now, they don't let us do that anymore. They don't bully us, but it feels like that to us."

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

@aragon1500 @ButterscotchwM @alexatheok Yes! Definitely! 'Some' is a very important keyword.

It's generally understood for most groups that people within that group are individuals, but when it comes to lesser known groups like aces, people often struggle to see what's 'this makes you [group]' & 'this makes you you'.

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

"Stop shoving your lifestyle in my face!"

Fine, we'll try to contain our lifestyle face-shoving.

No more engagement photo shoots, wedding photo shoots, pregnancy announcement photoshoots, baby belly growth photos, "gender" reveals, birth announcements, newborn photoshoots, ...

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

@Glaceix Well, you know, white is a spectrum. 😜

No, it isn't. Color is a spectrum & something's either white or it isn't.
If it isn't, I don't need it in my life. & I certainly don't need a dozen different shades of faux-white. But some people do. Or they need 1 of them or whatever. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

I just ✌️🏻love✌️🏻 when people who've just come across a label (& think new to them = new) decide it's unnecessary, because

- it has the same meaning as this other already existing label (it doesn't)

- it's too specific (not for those who use it)

- no one cares (except, they do)

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

@scretladyspider They always think they're so fucking clever.

Step 1: Don't understand what it means

Step 2: Base opinion on how you misunderstood what it means

Step 3: Be vocal about your opinion

Step 4: Insist that you understand what it means

Step 5: Make sure to mock it for being silly

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

@Glaceix I mean 'eggshell' is a color. So is 'offwhite'. I need neither of those labels, but I'm not gonna go to posts about boring colors & say how unnecessary they are. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes! FWB! I love bringing that up when people go "A (romantic) relationship without sex is "just" a friendship!"

[Asexual ACES @asexualACES]

@ButterscotchwM @alexatheok Some. Some aces can enjoy sex for the (alleged 😉) physical pleasure.
*someaces can enjoy sex. Not all do.s can enjoy sex. Not all do.