Women prefer “I want you to come” vs. “If you want to come” because the ‘If you want’ often feels like “That wasn’t my plan initially but since you insisted, why not.” And It (can) feel like you’re intruding. it’s not hard to grasp why folks need that clarity.
birthdays will be a huge deal in my household. i don’t want my children to EVER refer to the day they were born as just another day. that breaks my heart.