It’s 2023, we’re adults trying to be professional creators and y’all are out here unfollowing people so you can look like a cool kid with more followers than people you follow. It’s gross. I don’t play that game, so kindly knock it off. SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER!
I found out three weeks ago that my father has known for over a year that my uncle….. his own brother had been quietly draining money from the family trust my grandfather left specifically for my education and my cousins' education. My father knew. He let it happen. He told my uncle to "just pay it back before anyone notices," instead of protecting what was actually ours.
When I confronted him, he told me I was "being dramatic" and that "family doesn't air things out like this."
I didn't argue further. I just went quiet, the way you do when you realize arguing isn't going to change anything.
Three days later I packed a bag, turned off my phone's location sharing, and left. Told no one where I was going. Not my roommate, not my best friend, nobody who could accidentally give it away.
I've been staying with an old college friend two states away for the last week, phone off except for one hour a day to check messages, watching my family slowly spiral without any information to hold onto.
I know that sounds cruel. I've thought about that a lot this past week, whether this is cruelty or just the only language that's ever actually made my father listen to anything.
I turned my phone on this morning for the first time in two days. There are ninety-one missed calls, and a voicemail from my father I still haven't been able to make myself listen to yet.
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“Can I bring my baby to the interview?”
The message came in at 11 PM:
“Hi, I have an interview with you tomorrow at 2 PM. My childcare fell through. Can I bring my 8-month-old? I understand if you need to reschedule.”
Old me would have rescheduled.
Unprofessional. Distraction. Red flag.
New me replied:
“Absolutely. See you tomorrow.”
She showed up with her baby on her hip.
She apologized three times before even sitting down.
Ten minutes in, the baby started crying.
She tried to soothe him while answering questions.
She apologized again.
I stopped the interview and said:
“Hey. You’re managing a fussy baby, answering complex questions, and staying calm under pressure. That’s literally the job. Handling chaos while staying professional. You’re already proving you can do it.”
Her eyes filled with tears.
We hired her.
She’s been with us for a year now.
The most reliable team member we have.
Why?
Because when you’re used to handling a screaming infant at 3 AM and still showing up to work the next day, workplace stress feels like nothing.
Working parents, especially mothers, are some of the most organized, efficient, and resilient people you’ll ever hire.
Yet we lose them because our hiring processes are built for people with zero caregiving responsibilities.
If your interview process can’t accommodate a parent facing a childcare issue, you’re not filtering for professionalism.
You’re filtering for privilege.
BEFORE MODERN MEDICINE...💊 THERE WERE PLANTS.🌱
- Before aspirin, there was willow bark
- Before cough syrup, there was elderberry
- Before iron pills, there was nettle leaf
- Before vapor rub, there was eucalyptus
- Before sleep aids, there was lavender
- Before band-aids, there was plantain leaf
- Before cold medicine, there was wild cherry bark
- Before eczema cream, there was calendula
- Before disinfectants, there was thyme
- Before antibiotics, there was garlic
- Before pain balms, there was arnica
- Before probiotics, there was sauerkraut
- Before toothache gel, there was clove
- Before scar creams, there was rosehip oil
- Before anxiety pills, there was chamomile
- Before migraine tablets, there was feverfew
- Before muscle relaxants, there was valerian
- Before energy drinks, there was ginseng
- Before everything came from a lab, it came from the earth
Stop the meds and use plants, become healthy. 🌿
We've always known that Generation X is a unique breed. Listen to this guy explain it perfectly—it all makes complete sense.
We now live in a world that feels completely foreign compared to the way we were raised.
My 13 year old Daughter died from #BrainCancer 4,679 days ago. 💔
I would LOVE to see my Ashley’s name 4,679 times in comments for all the days she’s been missing.
When you lose a Child, the most beautiful word you can hear is their name. ❤️
A Repost & Follow would mean the world to us to keep our Ashley’s story alive.
💜 𝒜𝓈𝒽𝓁𝑒𝓎 💜