Iโve been saying this from day 1. I donโt mind managing a system, process, etc. I never want to manage people. That isnโt a personal accomplishment of mine at all!
It is unfortunate that South Africa is once again being cast as the villain by some governments&commentators across the continent. Many of these countries have failed their own citizens through poor governance, corruption, conflict, or economic mismanagement, creating the very conditions that force people to leave their homes in search of opportunities elsewhere.
My grandma and I were talking about the concept of marital rape today, and it made me realize how much we owe to the feminist movement and the fight for women's rights.
She told me that when she was young, a woman literally had no say over her own body once she married. The moment you signed that license, you belonged to your husband. If he wanted to do it, you had to submit, no matter how tired, sick, or unwilling you were. There was no word for it, no law against it, and absolutely no support if you said no. It was just considered a wife's duty.
It was a heavy reminder of how hard women had to fight just to legally own their own bodies. For generations, women quietly endured violations in their own beds because the law refused to protect them.
Hearing her speak about the modern concept of consent with such genuine relief made me realize how vital female autonomy is.
Marriage is not a contract that signs away your rights, and your body is always your own.
In light of the ongoing conversation, letโs show a little respect & fly the South African flag correctly. Patriotism is great, but the flag does in fact have a right way up.
Guidelines are contained in Government Gazette 22356, Notice 510 of 8 June 2001.
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Somewhere today, someone you barely remember is describing you to a person you'll never meet. They built a whole version of you out of one afternoon, and they still carry it around. You live inside hundreds of these little stories. You'll never hear one.
A researcher named Charles Cooley worked this out back in 1902. You build your entire sense of who you are by imagining how other people see you. Other people are the mirror. So the truest version of you has never really sat inside your own head. It has been living in theirs.
Your brain runs a quiet system for this. Get to know someone, and you build a small copy of them that you carry everywhere. You can hear their voice and guess what they'd say before they even say it. Everyone who knows you is doing the same thing with a copy of you. That copy keeps running after you leave the room. It keeps going after you leave their life, and sometimes after you leave the world.
And those copies stay busy. Scientists once recorded what people talk about all day. About two-thirds of it was other people who weren't even in the room. So at this exact moment, in a kitchen or a group chat you'll never see, someone is telling a story with you in it.
A 2018 study found something gentler. Almost everyone underestimates how much other people like them. We get so busy picking apart how we came across that we miss the other person walking away glad they met us. In their memory, you are the warm one. The cold version mostly lives in your own head.
Even dying does not switch this off. For most of the last hundred years, experts thought the job of grief was to slowly let the person go. In 1996, researchers found the opposite was healthier. We keep the people we lose alive inside us. We go on talking to them and telling their stories for years. About 1,500 years ago, a Roman writer named Boethius wrote that being forgotten is its own kind of death. People later put it plainer. You die twice. Once when your body stops, and once more, much later, the last time someone says your name.
So that ache you felt reading the phrase was pointing at something true. It never fully goes away. You spend a whole life leaving small pieces of yourself inside other people, and you never get to read a single one. The stories with your name in them will always outnumber the ones you hear. And they keep going after you stop.
Whatever happens to Arsenal today, i will be left as a proud and happy fan. These boys fought for the clubโs dignity. I am proud of themโฆ we remain humble.โค๏ธ๐๐ฝ
Declan Rice lifting the Premier League title same day as West Ham relegated.
Poetic against every single one of their fans who abused him for a professional exit.