Keep fresh flowers, have a signature look, have a spot for everything, know what you like, cherish your style, curate rituals to your liking, romanticise your life, find magic in the mundane, be an interesting person, challenge your limiting beliefs — maximise your existence.
Trauma makes you put yourself last and drain yourself by constantly paying attention to how others are feeling and making sure they feel ok. Healing makes you realize it's not your responsibility to regulate their emotions, manage their insecurities, and calm their inner storms.