Dear ladies,
The softness and kindness you looking for in a man's words are present the FIRST time he told you the issue. You didn't like what he said you told him to "make it make sense" well after a while you run out of soft, kind ways to describe how somebody pissed you off
I took living in Germany for granted. Domestic terrorism in that country is non existent it seems and the idea of shooting up schools, grocery stores or churches just doesn't make sense in anyone mind