Michael Smith, MFT, CST

I'm an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Sex Addiction Specialist in Orange County, CA

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

#Infidelity is anything sex-related, or an inappropriate emotional relationship, that you hide from your partner. Secrets & lack of trust will diminish #sexual openness and fun.

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Lubricants can improve #sex & eliminate pain, but choose the right type for your particular needs. Educate yourself before you go shopping.

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Use #Valentine’s Day to tell your partner how meaningful your relationship is. Your #love & emotional intimacy are the main ingredients for great #sex.

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Give your partner space to let them come back & be close to you. This in both the verbal & physical realms. Too close can stifle eroticism. #sextherapy

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Women also like to experiment but can be less likely to suggest. Create trust & safety in your #sexual relationship to give her permission.

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Stay in good #sexual health. Check with your dr. about any unusual symptoms. Women need annual gynecological exams. Avoiding can be harmful and bad for sexual fulfillment.

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Exploit the tease! Touch & lick all over the body. Get close, but stop short of granting relief until your partner is at the boiling point.

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Try some role-play for extra fun. Be a #sex slave, feign virginity, wear an outfit, use a camera, etc. Build trust to become fearless lovers!

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Don’t get lazy in your relationship, grooming & appearance does matter. Be someone your partner wants to have #sex with. Take the extra time. #sextherapy
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[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Don’t compare #sex with your current partner to your last, but use what you’ve learned to make this relationship as good as possible. Put the effort into developing a great sex life!

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Do you have a #sex problem, or is it just a time or fatigue problem? Make time for at least 2 sessions of sex activity per week. So many physical/emotional benefits. Take an hour, ok?

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Satisfying & successful #sex involves focusing on the sensations and pleasures of the #sexual moment & not worrying about the outcome.

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Avoid a knee-jerk reaction to your partner’s suggestion of something #kinky. Be open to trying things at least once, as long as it is safe & legal

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Take responsibility for your own sensual and #sexual pleasure. Learn what you like and want; share it with your partner. Take risks. Life is short, ask for it!

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Satisfying & successful #sex involves focusing on the sensations and pleasures of the #sexual moment & not worrying about the outcome

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

The best sex, by far, is the sort that leaves you thinking about it the next day, too embarrassed to tell anyone else what happened, but interested enough to ask for more of the same the next time - Megan Reynolds

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Media messages are increasing men's body image issues too. If you want him to initiate more, remind him that he’s sexually attractive to you.

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Women can take up to 20 minutes to reach their arousal peak. Take your time, create #intimacy & make sure that foreplay is slow & loving

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Resolve to improve your #sex life in the new year. Make time, educate yourself, slow down, take risks, try new things, seek help if necessary. Change takes effort.

[Michael Smith, MFT, CST @BetterSexTips]

Assure each other that when you're acting out your #sexual fantasies you'll both stop if one gets uncomfortable. This allows more freedom and fun.