@omgsidewalks You’ve probably heard this 100 times before but - it gets better. Every time. Whatever you’re going through will pass. You just gotta hold on and have faith in yourself
Personal experience - I’ve found that building a relationship with God significantly helps, just say hi to Him
Ridiculous how big companies work - rope in millions of users by first offering the product for free, harness the power of positive network effects to bring in even more people, so much that millions build their entire life / career around the platform and then switch up lik this
Meanwhile a content creator with 600k followers posted this - is the Instagram algo actually gaslighting creators? 4 views on a story after 4hrs, impossible to believe this is the natural algo (she doesn’t seem like someone who’d do this just for engagement)
SO SO SO important - even as adults, we often rise up to the identity we’re given by the people we value (teachers, parents, spouses etc) ; the opposite is true too unfortunately
Choose your words wisely :)
The most manipulative but effective thing I’ve ever done in my life was when I read an article about how children moderate their behavior to protect their self-identity, so if a child believes he’s smart, for example, he’ll intentionally study and try to do well to protect his image of himself.
Anyway, I would pull kids aside with behavioral issues at church and tell them, “David (obviously fake name), you’re such a kind person and such a good listener. I can see that in you. Thank you for always listening.” “Little Annie, thank you for taking such good care of the babies around you. You’re going to be such a good big sister. Can you be in charge of watching Sally?”
They would ALWAYS behave afterward. ALWAYS. Worked like a charm. Morally questionable because it wasn’t initially true, but I kind of willed it into existence. Tbf, I did think that they had that in them or I wouldn’t have tried.
Will publish longitudinal results of this method once my kid is old enough to report back.
There’s absolutely nothing more pleasing than watching yourself do the things you said you’d do. I really value honoring the promises I’ve made to myself.
pick a degree you don’t want to cheat. choose a city you don't want to flee. work a job you don’t want to quit. marry a person you don’t want to change. live a life you don’t want to escape.
Evlenirsen pişman olursun. Evlenmezsen de pişman olursun. Çocuk yapsan da yapmasan da pişman olursun. Kierkegaard bunu 200 yıl önce şöyle söylemiştir:
"Neyi seçersen seç pişman olursun. Çünkü sorun tercihlerinde değil yaşanmamış bir hayatı romantize etmendir. İnsan her daim gidilmemiş bir yolu cazibeli ve gizemli bulur. Bu yüzden mesele en doğru seçimi yapman değil. Hangi pişmanlıkla yaşayacağını seçip karar vermendir."
Sen neye karar verdin?
i actually feed on intelligence. i love it when people know a lot about a lot of things, such as music, films, religion, beliefs, and history. i love listening to people's opinions. i want to suck in all these smart things like a sponge.