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[Bisbelle @Bisbelle_]

It’ll be interesting to hear from women raised by men…
How are you?
How are you navigating life - friendships, relationships, marriages?
How are you balancing your feminine and girly nature with your ‘masculine’ tendencies?

Wo, in short, how are you?
😮‍💨

[Ibrahim Suleiman @edomaloybwg]

Blood Sisters 2.

You people, whatever Jessica Obasi (Mrs. Nze) was paid to play "Mimi" was not enough.

Every time she was on screen, I sat up in anticipation. Top stuff. Loved it!!!

#BloodSisters2

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

I met this young man some years ago
Handsome to look at, articulate, and very confident
A Christian, a father of two children, and a husband
He and his wife were attending a church somewhere in FESTAC
The pastor controls their home; by that I mean, the pastor controls his wife

The wife worked with an NGO
The husband worked with a bank, but he was one of those young men who learnt how to play the keyboard as a young man, and he was very good at it
It was what his wife saw in him that made her invite him to her church
It was the same thing the pastor saw that made him offer to give him leadership of the church choir and paid employment as choir director

He took the job because the offer was juicy but also because his wife, who was then just an acquintance followed him up closely on the offer
She went above and beyond to convince him to take the job
It was the above-and-beyond effort of this woman that led to her getting pregnant and subsequently to their marriage.

After they got married, this man realised that this pastor was an idol his wife worshipped
She was one of those women who lacked the ability to think for themselves or make any major decisions or even the minor ones, without the input and blessing of their pastor
It got so bad that whenever he dared question anything the pastor said, his wife would give him the silent treatment until he apologised or promised never to slander a "Man of God" anymore.

Things became worse after he got the conviction to take up a job abroad
The offer came out of nowhere, and it was a multinational opportunity that included sponsorship and allowance for his wife and family to help them relocate from any nation of the world to Canada.
He saw this as the answer to all his prayers.

First, the job was an opportunity of a lifetime.
Second, the job will keep as much distance as possible between his wife and this pastor, whom he was sure she was not having any physical relationship with, but who had taken over her mind completely
Third, he had wanted to leave his position as the choir director of that church for some years, but his wife made it clear to him that once he leaves the position and the church, he should forget about his marriage and his children.
She said this to him without mincing words.

He loved his wife and children, and he had stayed in the church and swallowed as much as he could with humility because the consequences were too dire for him to consider.
When he told his wife about the job offer, she ran off to inform the pastor
The pastor said, "No!"
His wife returned home and told him that she would have gladly travelled with him, but her place of assignment was in that church, and she wouldn't trade her divine destiny for all the riches in this world.

He accepted the job offer and filled out all the necessary documents
His wife told him he was wasting his time
It got so bad that he reported her to her parents and also got his own parents involved
His wife said he could leave, but she was not going anywhere
His wife's mother told him to go and pray
"I have never seen my daughter in such a disagreeable state before. She must be under a spell; you are her husband. Go and pray. I will also pray. This is not ordinary."

This was why the young man came to me.
He wanted me to pray with him that the scale in the eyes of his wife may fall off
I asked him if he still attended church on Sundays
He said yes
I asked him who the strongest female influence in the church was
He thought about it and mentioned a name
I said, "After service this Sunday, go and talk to this woman. Don't accuse the pastor of any wrongdoing directly, just insinuate that you suspect he is sleeping with some church members, your wife included, and you would like him to stop, or you will go public."

He did so.
That same day, the pastor, his wife, and this woman of influence visited their house
His wife couldn't contain her joy
Her idol was visiting her home for the first time in many years
The pastor's wife and the woman of influence watched her every move
As the husband, he stayed as aloof as possible.
His wife was all over the pastor
She couldn't help herself; he was God to her

The next day, the pastor called his wife and encouraged her to take up the offer to travel abroad with her husband
When she protested, the pastor said, "God told him to tell her so."
That was how the wife agreed to the move
Two months later, the family relocated to Canada, and this man was able to get his wife away from this pastor's influence.

PS: You often wonder how some people got fanatical followers despite how silly whatever they were doing is.
You see some religious figures commanding a huge followership, and you wonder why...

Human beings are one of the easiest beings to domesticate. Some of the most brilliant minds are so gullible, easy to program and manipulate by dullards in the name of spiritual leadership

There’s a popular anecdote about Joseph Stalin that goes as follows.

One day, the dictator of the Soviet Union told his closest advisors that he would show them how easy it was to control a person who had already been subjugated. He brought in a live chicken, which he then proceeded to pluck until it was naked and bleeding.

“Now, watch where the chicken goes,” Stalin said as he put it on the ground. Finally freed from its torturer’s grasp, the chicken wasted no time getting away. However, when it failed to find an exit, it readily returned to Stalin and attempted to warm itself between the dictator’s legs. Stalin then took out some grain from his pocket, which he fed to the chicken.

Some people, under the guise of religious ability, would dispossess other human beings of their reasoning ability and feed them corn in return for their loyalty.

Such people usually have a big ego and a larger-than-life personality that can easily be punctured by three things
1) Rumor
2) Reputational Destruction and
3) Innuendo

While these three things are negative and must be seriously discouraged, the threat of them is always enough to scare a man who depends on his reputation to keep his myth into doing the right thing.

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

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[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

I was invited to preach in a foreign country
The protocol officers were supposed to take me straight to the hotel from the airport, but I wanted to see the church and get a feel of the auditorium without the crowd
It helps sometimes to take a walk around the auditorium while praying quietly before one ministers
Especially if you are led by the Holy Spirit to do so

So I told the protocol guys to take me to the church
When we got there, I told them to wait in the car while I took a walk within the main auditorium
They argued a bit, but eventually agreed that I would be fine by myself

I went to into the church auditorium and slowly began my silent prayer walk
When I got to the rear exit of the auditorium, I saw some very beautiful decorations
They were so beautiful and compelling to the point that I felt like touching them
I touched them and several of the carefully arranged flowers fell off

Ha! What sort of trouble is this?
I began to pick them up
A lady came out of nowhere and started helping me to pick them up
I apologised to her and said, "I am willing to pay for the damages, please help me fix this."
She gave me that bombastic side eye

Two other ladies arrived on the scene with brooms in their hands
They began to help pick the flowers and rearrange them
Out of the corner of my eyes, I realised I knew one of them
She was the wife of the pastor who invited me to his church to preach

Ha! Pastor's wife, I screamed
She also recognised me at the same time
Ha! Brother Gbenga, she screamed
What are you doing here with a broom in your hand? I asked
She looked at the other ladies, and they gave us some distance
She said, "I am trusting God for a child, and I made a vow to God that I will keep his house clean until he answers my prayers."

I looked at her intently and said "So you and two other ladies sweep this huge auditorium whenever you have a service?"
She said, "No, sir, they accompany me, but I sweep it all by myself everyday sir. I have been doing this for about six months now."
Wow!
I said, "So how do you get home and give bishop good sex after this sort of manual labour?"
She kept quiet.

I said, "In Jesus name, I relieve you of this vow.
Receive your babies now as a favour from the Lord."
She fell on her knees and shouted Amen.
I signalled the other ladies over and told them that their pastor's wife would no longer be sweeping the church daily.
Their faces lit up.
It must have been daily torture for both of them to watch her labour like that for six months.

The one who gave me a bombastic side eye before, took advantage of the situation and said, "Sir, I am also trusting God to provide me with a husband. I want to be married by this time next year, I am 35 years old sir"
I smiled and said, "For helping me out earlier, whatever you ask of the Lord has been given to you by the power of the Holy Spirit".
She also said Amen.

I prayed for the third lady, too.
The third lady was the Pastor's wife's younger sister. She knelt down so many times, thanking me for setting her and her sister free from the daily labour.

This is the good news I received a year later.
The pastor's wife delivered a set of triplets, the other lady got married and delivered a baby girl, while the pastor's wife's younger sister got married too and delivered a set of twins!

So much good news to share to the Glory of God

PS: I also learnt my lessons about touching decorations when I do my prayer walk.
I now keep my hands to myself.

-GSW-

[Bisbelle @Bisbelle_]

Noticed the new @Spotify logo while driving and I almost had a panic attack. Realised it was a disco ball only after restarting the car to confirm my screen wasn’t broken.

Well done Spotify!

[Bisbelle @Bisbelle_]

@LidlGB Done, check your messages please

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

On that change of name issue…

A man of substance does not even make it an issue.
It is the woman that run helter-skelter with her money to change the name by herself.

When you apply for visa
They see your name and grant it without delay
They see her name and they deny her even with her proof of fund
She changes her name to yours and they grant it
The value attached to your name opens the gate of nations

You get to an event
She uses her father’s name and they give her a place in the standing area
With you she is guaranteed a seat in the royal box
You will be the one asking her to keep her father’s name
She will be the one fighting to change her name to yours

If her name is the one opening doors, you better let her keep it
Don’t use ego to limit what legacy can do for you
A good name is earned over time
A legacy is built and sustained by many years of conscious efforts and consistent goodwill

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

A Laughing Matter

A young lady found herself in a relationship with a man seven years older than her.
They met when she was seventeen, but they started having sexual relations when she turned nineteen.
Their relationship was exclusive as they both hoped to get married one day.

They were both students when they met. He was in his final year while she was in her second year at the same University.
He graduated the year they became lovers, while she continued to study

While he was observing the NYSC, she was doing everything she could to not drop out of school due to finances
Her parents were very poor, but her mother's elder sister stepped in to help her with her fees when the church sponsoring her education couldn't continue

It was a strong battle at the time, but God came through.
After his NYSC, he began to hunt for a job while she continued to trust God for sustenance, as her sponsor only took care of her school fees while she was expected to fend for herself somehow.

She had the option of going the way of Rahab, but she didn't take it.
Other men saw her beauty and whispered a lot of sweet nothings in her ears, but she was determined to be sexually disciplined.
"You don't have to open one mouth to feed the other mouth," she reminded herself of this over and over again.

Somehow, she got through school and graduated top of her class.
He was still job hunting
She went to observe her NYSC and got retained at the Insurance company where she served.
He was still job hunting and living with his parents.

She rented an apartment, furnished it, and moved in at the age of 23
As soon as she did all that, he moved into the apartment to get away from the stress of doing house chores at the age of 30 while still living with his parents

She became the provider while he lived with her and off her, claiming that God had lifted her head so quickly because of his prayers and her faithfulness to him.
Whenever there is any huge financial obligation to meet, like payment of her house rent, her master's degree school fees, hospital bill, electricity bill, and such, he would give excuses and return to his parents' house until he was sure she had sorted it out.

Even the little bills like "Buy me a burger on your way back from town" or "We need to refill the gas" or "We need some groceries". If he bought it with his money, he would hound her until she refunded him every penny

At a point, they had a sit-down, and she told him everything she had observed in his attitude towards her in their seven-year relationship.
He replied by telling her she is free to sleep with any other person who comes into her life for money, while he continues to strive to find his feet, since he was incapable of meeting her needs financially or carrying his part of the responsibility as a man living off her.

Foolishly, she took him up on it.
Since he had released her to sleep with other people while he would remain her boyfriend, "who looked away because it is his fault that he couldn't provide".

She never told him the details, but once in a while, whenever she met someone who was wealthy and willing to spend some money on her, she would take the man up on it.
Talk, good food, great company, exchange of ideas and contacts, network here and there, great dates, gifts, financial support, she insisted on STD, STI test when it becomes obvious she and the man would end up in bed and ultimately have sex with the man.

She kept it impersonal and simple. She meets with the man and manages communications with her boyfriend, usually by telling him she got a new client at work who she has to work with for a month or two until the account is sorted.
Then she spends more time away from home than at home until the relationship is consummated.
The man gets what he wants after she has gotten all she could off him, and then they part ways.

She did this steadily for two years. In all, she slept with five other men apart from her boyfriend. A politician, the MD of another Insurance company who flew her to Dubai, an Indian Jeweller she met in Ikeja, Lagos. An industrialist she met at a conference in UNILAG, and a pilot she met at a Youth Empowerment programme organized by the politician mentioned above.

She got some good money saved, bought a car, and registered her own company apart from her insurance job.
She met other men who wanted a relationship that could lead to marriage with her, but they were like her boyfriend.
Men in their thirties whose mouths are full of excuses and blame for the government for all their woes.

The goal-driven, success-oriented men she met were all married
She went to the hospital for her annual medical check-up, and the gynaecologist told her that if she intends to be a mother, she has a two-year window to become one.

She got home and told her boyfriend what the doctor said.
His attitude towards her changed immediately
He said, "So after you have slept with other men and done countless abortions, I am expected to play the role of a supporting partner now so that you can be a mother?
You cannot eat your cake and have it. You wanted money and ease, and you got it at the cost of your womb. Congratulations to you, but I will not be saddled with a barren woman.

He packed his bags and left her the next day. He didn't break up. He just left with all his bags, and he blocked her everywhere.
That was it.
The end of her eleven years with him.
She was thirty, and he was thirty-seven.

She cried for two weeks and decided to plunge herself into her business.
The day she resumed work, the politician came around to check up on her. He had been giving her some steady businesses and introducing some other politicians to her who were also working with her on their constituency projects and youth empowerment programmes.
Sometimes she gets the procurement contract, and at other times she provides insurance coverage; sometimes she does both.

He asked her what was wrong with her, and she told him point-blank that she needed to be a mother and that her boyfriend had dumped her.
The politician took her out on a date that night, and they talked while she cried her eyes out.
At one point, he joked that the waiters and other diners were probably wondering what he did to her

He said, "Stop crying, please, people are probably thinking you told me you are pregnant for me, and I have told you to go and abort it, or that I cannot marry you because I am married"

His comment made her laugh stupidly.

He married her. He was a divorced father of two children. He was separated while she slept with him, but the kind of relationship they had then did not include sharing each other's life details and stories.

She moved from her house in Akoka to his house in Magodo Phase II.
She was pregnant a month after their marriage.
The lines really fell to her in pleasant places; she got her goodly heritage
Her inheritance was secured.
Glory!!!!

When the pregnancy clocked four months, doctors advised that she should stop driving.
Her husband suddenly arrived home one evening with a driver in tow
He came into the house and told her he had gotten her a driver
She dressed up and waddled after him to see the person
It turned out to be her ex-boyfriend

She said the baby in her womb laughed first
She couldn't help it, but she started laughing too
Enemudo has chosen to work as a driver at the age of thirty-nine!
And of all people, fate brought him to her doorstep!

Her husband asked her what the issue was
She told him the driver he got was her ex-boyfriend
Her husband began to laugh too.

PS: It was a long but funny story
The weavers of fate can sometimes be hilariously tragic in their mischievous ways
That was the last time she saw him
She delivered a baby boy on the first of January 2025.

The End

[Babafemi Oluyemi @YoungFemo_]

About five years ago, I had a fight with my elder brother that left me badly injured. I fell, and blood poured from my nose and ears. I was rushed to the the hospital and the doctors discovered I had brain damage. Surgery was the immediate solution, but my parents couldn’t afford it. Instead, I was told to manage it with medication and strict instructions like no noise, no heavy lifting, no stress, not even too much thinking. But as I grew older, life demanded more of me. I had to think, I had to use my mind, and the bleeding became frequent. It also came with a terrible migraine.
Every day and night, I have lived with the pain. My parents and I tried to raise money for the surgery, hoping to do it next year, but deep down I was afraid. I am afraid of hospitals, afraid of surgery, afraid of undergoing a surgery at such a young age.

I carried that burden with me into The Flight. During the prayers, a lady hugged me, and I broke down in tears. I had never cried like that before. There and there, the lady said that God was ready to take away the burden from my shoulders and I will be free. I told God that the burden was the pain in my head and I needed Him to take it away. After that, another lady came and touched my stomach and spoke words of comfort that God had heard me, that He would remove every darkness from my life. I believed. Around that time, I heard someone speak about God healing us from unbelief. I tapped into it immediately, repeating over and over: Father, I believe. When you made the altar call for those with brain conditions, I knew it was for me. I stepped forward. Then, one of the ministers came to pray for me. All I could see were clouds, as though I was no longer on the ground. I saw a figure clothed in very clean white dress with hair like wool. It felt like a hospital scene in the movies. I was on a bed but this time, it wasn’t fear. It was healing. When I came back to myself, the headache was gone.

Right now, I’m lying on my bed after a long day, I expected the usual bleeding, the pain, the foggy sight. But there is nothing. No blood. No headache. No darkness. Just peace.
For the first time in years, I feel good. Like, I’m good. And I know it can only be Jesus. And I believe that it is gone and gone forever! Thank You, Jesus. I believe!

[Babafemi Oluyemi @YoungFemo_]

Twitter people, I need your help !

If you have or know anyone who is sick or afflicted or possessed…. Please bring them to this meeting or share this fliers with them!

Jesus is healing them ALL !

If you haven’t planned to attend yet, it’s honestly not too late 💛

There’s still enough room for you😌

Clear your schedule, call your people, make it a date !

[Papshine @papshine_t]

My friend called his fiancée a few minutes ago before their wedding tomorrow to tell her he just lost his job.

Embezzlement charges... He knew about it but wasn't directly involved.

He was shaking before he dialed.

She picked up.

He told her everything.

She paused and said...

"It doesn't matter. The wedding continues. We will figure it out together after."

He broke down crying on the phone.

She told him not to think about it. Then she prayed for him.

Phone was on loudspeaker. We heard everything.

After he dropped the call he looked at us and said

"Please marry right."

[Bisbelle @Bisbelle_]

Karishma Vijay!

[Lord Sugar @Lord_Sugar]

THIS is how you present to a room of people 👏

#TheApprentice #PublicSpeaking #PresentingSkills

[Lord Sugar @Lord_Sugar]

THIS is how you present to a room of people 👏

#TheApprentice #PublicSpeaking #PresentingSkills

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

The greatest lesson I have learnt in my walk with God is better told as a short story

Here it goes…

2019 November, last Friday of the month, we were having a vigil.
Night of Glory at a church in Ogudu.

I was to minister

Service started with intense worship, I was in the congregation, singing along with the minstrels.

Suddenly the Holy Spirit said “Leave the premises…..”

I left.

I walked out of the church, crossed the road and continued to walk towards Magrellos eatery on Ogudu road.

I got to an electric pole and the Holy Spirit said “Stop”.

I stopped.

The He said “Is anybody looking for you?
I said No sir
He asked again, “Since you left did the worship stop, can you still hear the music?”
I said Yes
Then he asked again, “Did anyone know you have left the service? Did anyone notice? Is anyone panicking? Is anyone feeling like without your presence the service will fail?”

I said “No!”

Then he said “This is not your service, you are not in charge, you are a worshipper as everyone else in the meeting is. You are not more special or more significant.

This service is about ME! I summoned those who I have called to this meeting and I brought them in by my own power.
They have gathered unto me, not you!

You are not in charge, I am.

I said “Yes sir”

Then he said “Wait here” and I did for an hour in the middle of the night.

The service went on and the Holy Soirit moved in the midst of the people with so many healings and testimonies.

Then He said “Go back to the service and worship with my people”

I went back and I got the message till today

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Hi guys, i got this message earlier today.

I was a Bowen University student from 2004-2008.
I was admitted to study Human Communications

I stole several things during this period and i have tried my best to restitute

Please if your phone got missing in 2006-2007 at Alma Rohm lecture hall

I am willing to pay you whatever you believe the cost of the phone is worth now

Please reach out to this account in the DM.

I am sorry for what i did and i am willing to make amends

I will pay you for that phone or those phones!

Thank you

Miss F.

[Babafemi Oluyemi @YoungFemo_]

Some moments in life are ordinary.
Others are MOMENTS OF DESTINY

The Flight Lagos 4.0 is not just another gathering…
It is a place where faith rises,
healing flows,
and destinies align with heaven. 🔥🕊️

Don’t miss this prophetic moment. ✈️
📅 April 25, 2026
🕛 12PM
📍 House 7, Plot 2/3 Kudirat Abiola Way, First Bank Bus Stop, Oregun, Lagos

#TheFlight #Supernatural #DestinyMoment #WorshipEncounter

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

A lot of religious people don't know God or His voice, and they always claim God spoke to them when making serious life decisions.
The term "God said..." then becomes an excuse for not seeing red flags or paying attention to all the signs that they would naturally see if they had not dulled their senses with a blinder, which they believe is faith.

A young single lady approached a pastor asking for prayers against spiritual forces contending against her marital destiny.
At twenty-eight, this young woman had never had a suitor, not even an admirer.

In a world where parents were cautioning their children to dress properly and shun waywardness, the young lady's parents had taken drastic steps to help her catch a husband, a sugar daddy, or a friend with benefits or even a married man to impregnate her by changing her wardrobe and advising her to change her church, friends, and recreational locations where they felt she should hang out in order to meet men.

According to her mother, if she couldn't get a husband, she should get a baby.
The young lady's parents were unbelievers who saw and treated life the way wild olive trees do.
The young lady, however, was a religious Christian who gave her life to Jesus while in the boarding school, and she didn't want to live her life the way her parents lived theirs.

Her mother had taken her to several spiritualists, and she had been diagnosed with "spirit husband affliction".
She had done a "spiritual divorce" in three shrines and spent a lot of money on deliverance services.

While all these claims were being pushed as the reason no man would look at her, the truth was far more obvious.
Women in the lady's family do not get married because of how they were raised.
They were raised to see men as wild beasts that must be tamed, and as a result of this, the daughters were all given certain incisions in their privates as soon as they hit puberty.

The duty of this incision is to give them domineering power over any man who shows any form of affection towards them.
The other families on Lagos Island, from which this family hailed, all knew this and cautioned their sons from marrying into this particular family.
The few females from the family who travelled far to get husbands who knew nothing of their family tradition, suddenly discovered that the fortunes of their husbands spiralled downwards after the marriage.
The husbands either die or run as far away from them as possible.
The ones that stayed became emasculated lackeys with nothing of note to offer.

This pattern had been in the family for several generations, and as a result, the women in the family resorted to getting pregnant with strangers and giving the children they bore their family name.
Seven generations have done this.
The less educated among the women would have several children with different fathers, while the more educated ones would have one or two using the same design.

This young lady wanted a marriage. She believed that giving her life to Jesus should have rid her of the curse of truncated marital destiny and saved her from the fate that befell her sisters, aunties, and cousins.
The funny thing is, almost all the male children in the family end up married with a family, just like her parents.

These men, however, leave all the raising and the provisioning to their wives. They chase skirts, have a vibrant social life, and whatever money they make, they spend on chasing pleasure. Their wives were essentially single mothers
Her two older brothers got married and live exactly this way, while her two older sisters had embraced the pattern that had become the norm in the family.

In their family, when adults want to talk about their daughters, they do not say "When is she getting married?", they say "When is she bringing us a child?".
She grew up wondering why until she became wiser and saw that this is the way of her people.

She liked the pastor, and she told him everything about herself and the challenge of getting a husband and breaking this curse for her and her unborn children.
She was a medical doctor, quite accomplished for her age, and the young pastor felt she would be a "catch" for him.
A proper altar spec who can stand beside him at any social event, and people would just respect him for marrying such a successful woman.

He prayed with her that day and assured her that God had answered her prayers.

After she left, he did a sum of all he had heard and seen in his heart.
He was 30 years old, struggling to feed and pay rent as a preacher.
The person who referred the lady to him had tacitly told him that he should consider her as his ticket out of chronic poverty by marrying her.
He decided to pray and fast about it
On the seventh day of the fast, the lady was the one who called him just as he was about to break his fast.

He considered this a sure sign that God wanted him to marry her, and he told her so.
She replied by saying, "Oh my God. Oh my God! I woke up this morning with my left eye twitching, and that usually is how God makes me know something good is about to happen in my life. I called to share this good omen with you so that I can seek your insight and ask you to pray for me for the good thing to manifest quickly. I didn't know it was you. God is indeed marvellous."

They got married, and the marriage was hell for the pastor from day one.

He did not consider the fact that the woman he married was not raised in a family where there was a traditional culture of a "husband and a wife". She had no model or training in that guise. Her mother was married, but she was a single mother who controlled the purse strings and made all the decisions while her husband just coasted along.
This was the way she was raised, and it was what she knew.
Moreover, she was making the majority of the money and literally providing for him just as her mother provided for her father and the whole family.

The pastor grew up in a totally different setting with a different worldview and mindset.
The husband was supposed to be the head of the family.
Who earns more than the other should not even be an issue or a reason for him to no longer be the head of the marriage.
His wife didn't see it that way
She was paying the rent, fueling the car, buying the appliances, paying for food, vacations, hospital bills, and so on.
She gets to lead whether her husband likes it or not.

Three months into their marriage, her husband returned home from the church and saw that she had changed the furniture, beddings, and every other thing in the house without carrying him along.
It was her modus operandi, and he had complained about it several times.
He told her he thought he wanted the material things before they got married, but the price she was asking him to pay for whatever she had to offer was too steep.

That day, he went to sleep in the church. His wife thought he would get over it and return home after dealing with his bruised ego.
He didn't.
Days stretched into weeks.
Whenever she would go to the church to see him, she would be told he had gone off to a mountain top for a prayer retreat.

Months went by. She eventually went crying to the General Overseer of the church. How could a husband abandon his wife of three months for two months in the name of a prayer retreat without informing the wife of his whereabouts or checking in?

The General Overseer placed a call to the husband, and the husband explained that his wife liked the idea of being married but did not really want to practise what it means to be truly married, and he was tired of the strife he was having with her.
The wife said she didn't see herself being married to someone whom she has to take permission from to do whatever she desired to do to make her life, career, home, or marriage better.
"Why should I ask my husband if it is okay to travel abroad for a few days to clear my head? Is it not my money? Did I ask him for a dime? I mean..."

He complained that I brought company over to the house without informing him. "Sir, I paid the rent. I can bring a live bear over if I want. Even if he paid the rent, it is my damn right to live free. Marriage has not made me a slave to him.
If not for marriage, can he address me in public? Are we of the same level? He needs to soak his ego in some cold water. Poor people are always so proud for nothing!"

It was a mess.

The General Overseer asked the pastor if he hadn't paid attention to the worldview and mindset of his wife before they got married.
He said he only prayed and got a conviction that she was the one.
The General Overseer asked the doctor if she hadn't
paid attention to the worldview and mindset of her husband.
She said, "My eyes twitched that morning, and I called him, and he said he had prayed and God had revealed to him that I am his wife".

The marriage never worked.
They were officially divorced two years later, but were only married vitally for three months.

PS: Who raised your spouse? What manner of household did he or she come from? What is the philosophy of her mother? What is the philosophy of his father? What is their culture as a family?
Rachael stole an idol despite being so loved by Jacob; family culture, tradition, and religious beliefs matter a lot.
Abraham said a wife should not be chosen for his son from people of a particular culture, he knew that if his son would come to know His God, he must do so without the seducing influence of the idols of his father's house coming to his wife.
Speaking in tongues is not a criterion for a good marriage, nor is prophesying or preaching good sermons.
"God said" is not the right way to pick a life partner.

Marriage shouldn't be a black market unless you want it to be. Do your investigations. Check those digital footprints. Call old friends. Meet his siblings and best friends. Those who know him or her long before you met him or her may not say anything to you about him or her directly, but body language does not lie.
You can't see the body language if you don't get close enough to them to observe them during a meal or a social event.

Don't marry a stranger only to complain of his or her strange mannerisms, attitude, behaviour, and mindset.

Find a wife and prepare yourself to be found by your husband.

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

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