No amount of love can change a cub’s nature. You may tame it for a season, but you cannot domesticate its instincts forever. One day, the hand that fed it could become its prey.
Moral: Character outweighs affection
Anytime you find yourself thinking about how much better it could have been, you should also be grateful for how much worse it didn’t turn out. #Dupetie
Monday Office Politics : Your Mentor is Part of Your Problems.
Last week, the Nigerian Navy (NN) made a statement with its 70th Anniversary celebration. Nothing was left on the table. From the display of naval power, to the capacity of the Special Forces, to what naval pilots can do at sea, it was a full expression of professionalism, coordination and pride.
In the midst of all these activities, officers and men of the NN also proved something else. They are not only operationally outstanding; they are also photogenic.
So, I saw a beautiful picture, admired it, and posted it on my social media accounts. Ordinary picture o. Ordinary “see my mentor” o. But the reactions started coming from different corners.
Some people expected me to choose another person. Some expected me to choose their own mentor. Some were surprised that I could even say it openly.
In fact, the whole thing became interesting to me because I saw how people think when your decision does not favour their own expectations.
But the real lesson for me was simple.
People are watching your movement.
Sometimes, it is not even a bad thing. It helps you to know that your progress is not as silent as you think. People may not clap for you openly, but they are taking note quietly.
However, in office politics, once you choose, you choose.
You cannot stand in the middle of the road and expect vehicles coming from both sides to pity you. If you choose someone’s enemy as your mentor, prepare yourself. You may inherit enemies you did not offend.
Some people will not dislike you because of your own character. They will dislike you because of who they think you represent. They will attach you to another person’s history, another person’s battles, another person’s loyalty network, another person’s achievements, and even another person’s mistakes.
That is why mentorship in the office is not just emotional. It is political.
Before you publicly attach yourself to anybody, understand the full meaning of that attachment. It is not only about who is guiding you. It is also about who is angry that you are being guided by that person.
Choose your mentor carefully.
Because in office politics, people do not always attack the tree. Sometimes, they attack the shadow.
And remember, the tree with good fruits will always be visited with many stones.
Love after 25 is different. You’re not looking for sparks. You’re looking for stability, kindness and shared goals. You’ve outgrown games and butterflies. You’re craving peace, emotional safety, and someone whose future aligns with yours.
The fastest way to waste money is sometimes by trying too hard to save money.
Come with me on this journey.
You buy ₦1,000 data every day because you think it is cheaper. That ₦1,000 gives you about 3.2GB. Before the day ends, the data is gone. Tomorrow, you repeat the same thing. Next tomorrow, the same cycle continues.
By the time the month ends, you have spent almost ₦30,000 on data, yet every day you still feel like someone who does not have enough data.
But here is the chilling truth.
If you had bought a ₦20,000 data plan outrightly, you would have saved about ₦10,000, gotten more data, and reduced the stress of opening your bank app every day to do emergency subscription.
That is how many people lose money. Not because they are careless, but because they confuse smaller payment with better spending.
Sometimes, the wise thing is not to spend less.
It is to spend better.
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In my short time in the army, the best COAS have been Lt Gen TY Buratai, Lt Gen TA Lagbaja and the current COAS. I can never be comfortable anywhere their names is been rubbish.