there’s a kind of emotional fatigue that comes from constantly monitoring yourself, how much you ask for, how much you feel, how much space you take, just to avoid being seen as ‘too much’ by people who were never giving enough.
Out of ten men, one makes a sexual joke at a woman, two laugh, three fake a chuckle to fit in, and four stay silent. None of them speak up. Later, nine of them still believe they're the "good guys." But from the woman's perspective, the laughter, the silence, the looking away, it all creates the same environment. So when women say"most men are the same," this is what they mean: not that every man harasses women, but that most men help protect the system that does.
SPOILING DONT ALWAYS INCLUDE MONEY! It includes time, attention, cooked meals, being there emotionally, physically & mentally! Money comes & goes but how you make me feel is forever !
I cannot stress enough how important it is to speak up for yourself when someone is crossing your boundaries or dismissing your feelings. You are your biggest advocate. No one else can read your mind or feel what you feel.
My therapist told me, “No one notices your sadness until it turns into anger, and then you’re the problem. Healing is realizing you became the angry person because no one saw your sadness first” and I felt that.
Building then walked back and stared my direction again. And then left.
Universe please dont test me. Im weak and still recovering.
Im like it cant them. They should be at work. My brain is tired. 🫠
i love this because it’s honest:
“maturing is realizing none of us are easy to be with. it’s about who’s willing to stay committed to understanding you and actually wants to grow with you.”
real love isn’t the absence of difficulty. it’s two people deciding that even when things get uncomfortable, they’re willing to stay, learn, and grow instead of running.
abandonment isn’t just leaving someone in a house with no food, water, or lights. it’s also shutting down instead of showing up. It’s withdrawing without proper communication.
abandonment is disappearing during hard moments. it’s refusing accountability. it’s avoiding repair. it’s choosing silence over clarity. It’s also ignoring your partners needs.
it’s ignoring someone instead of saying you need space. abandonment is making someone feel alone while you’re still physically present.