Interesting that guys expect Tinder to be a serious communication platform - it's not. It's designed for quick messages, and if you want to get deeper i.e. non-sexual, ask to move your conversation somewhere else.
Well, that was something. After zero sex in 11 years, someone who had been patiently messaging me came over and fucked me which was absolutely amazing. I told him I was a virgin really, so he was gentle pushing in. Also completely the wrong time to ask about HIV status. Sigh.