Crazy how ruthlessly the self-proclaimed “girl’s girls” are attacking this when she:
1-doesn’t blame girls, says she’s just awkward.
2-doesn’t say male friendships are better.
Just goes to show how paper thin “girl’s girl” is—no solidarity if you’re not the right kind of woman!
When people say “you need to just unlearn your trauma and go to therapy, you’re an adult” they seem to think there’s a magical therapy switch where you go to therapy and within 180 days you just become a more socially acceptable person that’s released their baggage
because social withdrawal is a symptom of severe depression in the same way a fever is a symptom of the flu. is it a little more complicated/layered? yes. is it healthy? no, severely depressed people are not healthy. should we be moralizing it? no. people need help not judgment
ngl the comments in this thread are genuinely disturbing. if you can't hangout and make time and energy for your friends when they're at their lowest you don't deserve them at their best
This triumph of “lived experience” over study has been disastrous for political analysis as a whole. Living your life as a certain group gives you no real expertise in analyzing their struggles and doesn’t make you an authority on the political of philosophical study of them.
people will say “you can’t heal in isolation inconvenience is the price of community show up for people let people show up for you check on your friends🥺” & “no one is coming to save you push through stop making things about you” in the same breath & its enough to drive you nuts
men also apparently have no idea that most “male attention” is unwanted and usually carries an implicit threat of violence or sexual abuse. like the only way to stay sane in public is to move fast and never make eye contact with, acknowledge, or react to any man you see
so cruel yet so fascinating how you'll have to literally rewire your brain after a certain event while the other person goes on to live their life completely unaffected
Bc nobody wants to deal with people when they’re depressed. People will get sick of you, and quickly, and before you know it you’re losing people bc you’re ’negative’ and ‘draining’. Best kept to yourself if you can keep yourself safe.